My parents are recently divorced - just in time for my wedding. The dynamic is tricky. My dad has a new girlfriend, and my mom is spiraling. How can I ensure their BS doesn't ruin our special day?

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Seat them apart apart apart!! Could your dad hypothetically not bring the gf?

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Yeah that's a good note for sure, I can try to get them on opposite sides of the room at the reception. Hopefully they don't show up early for the ceremony and get into it there. Possibly, he's a bit sensitive, but I could try to ask. Will give it a go, hadn't really thought of that as an option.

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Have some backup plans with your crew to help handle intervention if necessary. Keep them seated in honorable locations...apart. Let mom have a massage and a glass of wine beforehand. Also, there's always the idea of eloping if they're really next level. Best of luck and congratulations!

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If you have a close relationship with your mom, I would try to see if she could keep it at bay for you as a favor while you're there and also ask your dad to be respectful as well, just during the time of the wedding. You can warn your mom he might bring his gf, but I agree with EY1 that you could ask if he could just come stag.

Also maybe invite your moms best friend or someone who can keep her entertained. Even if you wouldn’t normally invite this person…could help

This is probably the best solution to this. I couldn't think of any better solution. Let's just hope everything goes well.

So sorry about that. Rearrange the seating plan. That's the best you can do.

I agree with EY1. Your mom needs a companion during the entire ceremony until the reception or after party. Sorry you have to go through this.

Maybe you can talk to them separately. There won't be a problem if both of them are still cool with each other. But I guess that's pretty rare.

Let's just hope for the best, OP. I'm sure they will not let that happen. It's your special day after all.

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