My wife isn't supportive of my sobriety and I don't know what to do about it. I feel like it might be a big enough problem to try couples therapy. How should I navigate this?

To experience a rich life, one’s best investment is in that which even those with significant monetary wealth won’t be able to purchase at any price…. Relationships , health, and learning

Thoughts on the Bill Michael resignation email we got? I’ve heard the same commentary and worse from my bosses about covid being ‘fake’ or ‘ over exaggerated’ and have been told by my bosses to expect working longer hours without hanging time to eat — but it seems it doesn’t matter unless unless there’s an article written about it that the media puts out.... one thing to enforce our values on only those getting caught in the spotlight for it.

How do doctors diagnose you with BPD or similar things? Do they observe you for a while, or interview your family and friends, or just talk to you?

New to recovery and had an intake call with an IOP program. They said all sessions will be on Zoom and I’m really nervous that I won’t connect to the program virtually. Anyone start rehab virtually?

Any sober/ non-drinkers here? I’ve struggled to find new groups of friends since i quit drinking. Any advice on groups, etc would be appreciated!

(SF based)

2 of my best friends who were dating for over 9 years just broke up and I feel like I’m going through the breakup with them as well. I’m sad I won’t get to hang out w/ both of them at the same time

How does it feel to really love your girlfriend and wife? When and how did you know you loved her?

Hi. I have very low AMH, 36 years old & never have been pregnant. I have done 2 IVF cycles this year approx 5 months apart. Each time had only 2 eggs retrieved, 1 fertilization each which lead to the embryo reaching blastocyst stages both times & both came back normal after genetic testing 🤍 talk about beating the statistics odds! 🤞🏻 I now have 2 cutie embryos saved. My husband & I would love to have twins and will be speaking to my doctor about the best options. Twins thoughts?

Just learned my work bestie might be moving to another country. Ugh. I’m so sad. 😭

Feeling a deep void in close human connection after letting go a relationship that was lacking a future (I was interested in something more, he was unsure). Can’t stop thinking of reaching out and need strength to just stay with the loneliness and have hope for the better times. Would appreciate support. It’s been 2 weeks but I feel bouts of extreme sadness and desire to have someone to share my life and days with.

Are advanced practice providers (NPs/PAs/CNMs) allowed to use your physician lounges or dining rooms? We just got an email from HR stating if we eat in there (and there are video camers), we will be punished.

Daycare recommendation in Ashburn for a 2 year old?

What's your best advice for winter driving in this area? I'm a recent transplant and nervous about getting on the road in the coming months!

Wanted to share some positivity!

I gained 25 lbs throughout 2020 & 2021. In Jan 2022, had a goal to get back in shape.

Beginning in April, after a combo of fasting, intuitive eating, hitting the gym 4-5x/week, going thru a short cutting phase, weight training at 85-100% & slowly building back up to 5k steps daily, I lost 20 lbs in 6 months (end of Sept)!

I’m in my TWW and just found out I had close contact with someone with Covid. As if I needed more to stress about! 🤞 I stay negative and our little embaby is sticking!

To the extroverts: make sure to schedule time with friends & family daily, to keep mood positive and energy level high. Lack of socialization can be a downer. What are others doing to interact?

What do your agencies offer to support mental health?

How do single folks (living with roommates) in San Francisco/NYC areas arrange for their parents’ stay with them, when they are visiting from home countries? Want to have my retired parents come and stay with me in 2022 for 2-3 months and looking for creative ideas to make their stay comfortable. Thank you :)

Are you the SO that works long hours but your partner doesn't, or vice versa? How do you make sure to dedicate enough time to your partner when your working hours differ quite drastically?

On ttc since 2 months. I am 4 days away from my period date and I have no vaginal discharge now, it’s totally dry. I also do not have any symptoms such as breast soreness, increased urination or fatigue. Does it mean I am not pregnant this month as well?

The two week wait is really hard. Especially the 2nd week.

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Current apartment 2780/month: not moving = no brokers fee, brand new sparkly kitchen with new appliances, two parking spots, spacious bonus room, forced air AC, baseboard heating that costs $400+/month in the winter bc of bad insulation, kind of gross bathrooms with some tiles hard to clean/falling out of the walls, lots of small fixer-upper items like replacing curtain rods where the nails seem to be coming out from their holes, etc.

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Any 🐟 here at Slalom in Chicago? Was wondering how you guys feel about the firm and your experiences there coming from a group that lacks a lot of diversity so wondering if Slalom Chicago is any diff

What's the inhand salary calculation for below 2 offers(after tax)

1. 34 LPA fixed pay ( both employer and employee PF included) 12% of Basic. Total 3.2 LPA in PF deduction.

2. 36.5 LPA fixed pay ( employee pf 12% of basic and employer PF is 1800 )

My Deductions are
1. 1.5 lakhs 80c
2. 50k 80ccd
3. HRA - 22k p.m.

Anyone lucky enough to be in the best state in the country? Dirty Jersey?

If you are not going to law school or thinking about it. Is it a purpose of staying as a paralegal throughout your career? I mean there is no any other higher up movement other than a senior or managing paralegal.

Hi friends is 23 LPA fixed + 2 LPA variable a good offer for 8.3 years experience?

If I Accepted the TCS offer and lateron got another offer them can TCS matchback or give best offer on latest offer ?

Has anyone found Vietnamese egg coffee anywhere in MA?

FORM50? It seems like Pilates on steroids. I’m wondering if anyone has tried it? And if it is actually as lit as they represent? It’s only got studios in NYC (Astoria) and Miami, so call out to Miami and NYC fish!

Has anyone here tried to go back to their home country (from the US) while on H1b for vacation and to renew H1 visa during Covid? What was your experience attempting to come back to the US ?

Hi Fishes,

Can anyone refer me to Citi for role of Salesforce Developer?

Please DM me

Just got diagnosed at 24. I’m always a little weary of taking new medicines as I have dealt with increased anxiety the past two years. How do low doses of vyvanse make you feel? Does your heart race by a lot?

Anyone who has made a switch from Consulting to IB post-MBA willing to share and talk about their experiences? For e.g. how hard is recruiting/how to prepare for it/how is the day in life of a banker? Would love to hear some perspectives on this.

I think tools like BP and UiPath will be irrelevant in a few years. They deliver nowhere near the value that consulting firms declare imo.

Me: i’m already behind on billables
Wife: how is that possible
Me: I have zero. I need 2000 by the end of the year
Wife: you’re funny
Me: how is that funny

What is the best firm for entertainment litigation in LA?

Hello everyone! I am looking for advice. I am a C&B Team lead ( about 15 years of experience) but all my experience was in Russia. Now I got married and moved to UK , plus we have got a baby in 2019 so now I am looking for a job in UK having 3 years of career break. Although, I am getting CIPD lvl 7 diploma this year. I am not ready for team leader's role now . So my question is about HR area, where could I find a job with my only Russian experience? HR generalist, C&B analyst, HR BP, recruiter?

I started working for a bank and am going through the background check. They found an arrest which was dismissed and the file was sealed a few days after the check. They’re requesting the police report on top of the court order to seal. The police report is BAD. During the arrest (DUI) they wrote the report to make me seem like a complete lunatic. Embellished on several elements of the case. I am worried that giving them this report will cause me to be let go.

Is Al Anon really helpful for spouses/children affected by alcoholism or other addictions? Does anyone have insight on this

Has anyone done the Lionrock Recovery Program? I just enrolled and wondered if anyone has done it. I was stunned that my insurance basically covers all the costs.

1st of all: I’m super inspired by this bowl. I’m now mid-30s and recently went 50+ days without drinking and felt good/productive. (Longest streak since before turning 21) But how do you stick with it? I’m conflicted bc I haven’t hit a “rock bottom” and part of me loves a glass of wine to unwind and mark the end of the workday, but I also have a hard time stopping once I start (no such thing as 1 glass). Feel boarder-line between these 2 worlds and unsure where to go. Anyone feel similar?

My husband was sober for 8 days then relapsed. This is the longest stretch he's gone in probably 8 months. I can't describe the heartache. I can't describe the hopelessness. This disease is the devil

This time last year I knew I needed to stop drinking, but I couldn’t. This year, though, I’m putting my health first. Starting day 2 of sobriety and hope to keep it up. Thanks to this group for all the support and encouragement shown to those of us struggling with such powerful addictions.

Trying to get my relationship with ADHD meds back under control.. the fear of going a day without is always alwayss worse than the day itself but the fear is nonetheless consuming :/

SEEKING OPINIONS & FEEDBACK: I love the honest & practical discussions here, where people can freely identify things that are going on & seek guidance.

Wondering whether anybody’d be interested in some kind of more purposeful community- i.e., gathering w/fellow lawyers to pursue some specific mental health & well-being goals? We’d provide some counseling/coaching type content, in bite sized chunks, but have regular discussions to connect & encourage one another on applying the content IRL.

I recently tried quitting everything last Sunday, with drew all last week and then relapsed Friday, Saturday and Sunday worst withdrawals I ever had (cold sweats, shaking, wasn’t sure I would survive). I’m through the worst of it now but any advice? Thought about rehab but can’t stop work. This is probably my 9th time trying to go sober during the pandemic. I live alone so the isolation with the pandemic has extremely escalated my usage to the point of about a bottle of a day on weekdays

Does anyone have any advice for supporting and coping with someone going through withdrawal? My husband is trying to quit his weed addiction and he has been irritable and mean since he quit. His mood is erratic and he is constantly annoyed w me. I don't even know how to bring this up without setting him off. Just feel like I'm walking on eggshells and I'm emotionally exhausted at this point. Is there anything I can do to help him? Is there anything I can do to help myself cope?

Relapsed, damaged my car pretty badly. No one got hurt fortunately but I feel down and broken, again. Why can’t I stick with sobriety it’s killing me

I left my last job because I didn't appreciate the culture (B4). However, it was probably because I was a terrible employee. However, I do find that my clients love me 10x more than my consulting colleagues. I joined a smaller firm to cover up the problem.

I drink during the day. I know it's the main reason for my ability to be a productive employee. Anyone else deal with this? I'm trying to control it through moderation management, Dharma meetings, therapy, and white knuckling.

Just wanted to post an update. 68 weeks ago I posted about my drinking problems. It was bad. It’s been 8 months now without a single drink. I still can’t believe it. I still miss drinking. I’ve sat with coworkers and watched them drink. It’s not nearly as fun, but I am so thankful each morning I can hold my head up high. Will I drink again? I only said I would quit for 60 days. Can I have a beer? Some wine? A fine bourbon? I sometimes crave it. I guess there is the answer! You can all do this!