Reading that I feel this way because I’m trauma bonded but then also read you will always be pulled towards your soulmate. 💀

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I haven’t read about trauma bonding but isn’t it almost inevitable to some degree (on a huge scale) with everyone close to you? We get closer to people by going through ups and downs. I know there’s toxic parts to it but I don’t think it’s always a bad thing to bond that way.

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Yeah I don’t think that these terms are always helpful. Missing someone you had a close relationship with /= trauma bond.

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