A question for parents: Has anyone here tried an au pair? Currently we pay $975 a week for my 3 year old and 8 month old to be in typical 9-5, M-F daycare. (That’s $50,700 a year.) I have an extra car, and a fully furnished spare bedroom, and our second floor is large enough to give an au pair their own privacy. I just want to hear some experiences.

My girlfriend is willing to break off our entire relationship because she found out my mom doesn't approve of her. We have no issues between each other but she said she can't be with someone who's family doesn't like her.

Why is it that a lot of couples I know living in big cities are in open relationship?

Dyslexia! After having our kindergartener son tested (privately) related to ADHD, we were told he may have dyslexia too (which would explain why he struggles so much with phonics but is amazing at sight words). He has a very high IQ. As a voracious reader, I am finding myself unexpectedly distraught that something that I have loved so much will be such a struggle for him, and worrying that it will affect his motivation and may steer him away from things he may otherwise love.
Tips/Commiseration?

Has anyone actually found love at work? My best friend started at a new company 6 months ago and she just took an offer somewhere else because she and her senior manager fell for each other. After 6 months she knew it was worth leaving her job for! I've been working at the same place for three years and I went on one date with a guy who didn't even work with me he just worked in the building. What am I doing wrong.

I low key miss fridays in the office because I don’t know how to make new friends as a 26 year old

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…

Just a heads up- Jewish New Years starts tomorrow night, Yom Kippur is next week followed by sukkot. This period of time can be very stressful for Jewish colleagues who are trying to balance work, family and religion. Please be conscience of their schedule. Their schedule might inconvenience your team but they are sacrificing a lot too…

Trying to help my retired dad - When I google for what to do after retirement, only retirement planning related things shows up. My dad has been a workaholic and hasn’t developed many hobbies he could pursue. I was wondering how I could help him stay slightly occupied if not busy. Anyone here experienced this with your parents or yourself? How did you navigate this?

I’ve been in a relationship now for two years. We are living together. We talk about the future etc. I could easily see myself marrying her. However, I have an issue… cont

I love my SO but get unsure....they just went on a friends trip and came back and randomly said going on another one in two weeks. I said I wanted to spend time together so they came back next morning and said let's go away just us instead, which is awesome and I am happy BUT is it a red flag? They used to always be all about spending time together and now seems like I have to remind them to put us first in the past month. We both work hard and have kids so life is more complicated. Vent over.

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

My sister & I don’t get along because i feel she is extremely rude & prefers outsiders over family. My parents however, despite the fact that she disrespects them too, always say she is our daughter & we have to deal with it so just let her be. My mom thinks she is not in a good financial state so we should help her & I don’t want to given her disgusting behavior. Every time i buy something nice for myself, my mom kind of pushes me to buy for her too, and I don’t want to. Continued..

Anyone else sickened by Amy’s use of her black kids as props? You didn’t have to tell us that those two black kids were adopted, but way to make them feel different.

I hate it when people try to bond with me over trauma when their trauma is that they fight a lot with their spouse or they didn’t get the promotion they wanted. How is that staring death in the face??

If you are planning on proposing do you take your fiancé to chose the ring or you just pick it up by yourself? 🙄

Just got married to a somebody I met through this bowl and I love him with everything inside me! Wanted to share that’s there’s hope for everybody!!!!

I just had to send my husband away in an ambulance. I’m not allowed to go with him or even go to the hospital. I don’t know what to do. I can’t even be there for my husband.

Anyone co-parenting in different states? Looking for insight on visitation, general feelings, and how the child/children are doing. Thank you!

Any Porsche consulting friends out there?

My partner hates my long working hours.

It is really hard to do well in this business without sacrifice and my partner doesn't like it. To be fair that sacrifice is her... Most nights,over the weekend, and during every meal. She deserves better but I either sacrifice time or sacrifice earning potential.

I don't know how to solve this problem.

I am a new joiner, from where I can collect welcome kit?

Hi Fishes,

I am a MBA-Finance professional with 10 years of experience in Handling Finance, Accounts and Taxation in SAP.

Please let me know if any job opportunities with your reference.

Thanks and Regards,

Suraj Amin

Hi all, how did you solve the retirement puzzle?

As an expat, I went on the Degiro for investing at the moment, since the account can be used from all countries.

Was considering to invest also in an insurance, but is apparently not possible if you live abroad and then maybe go back to the home country.

Have any tips?

why do famous celebrities rarely go to prison for crimes they commit?

Anybody know how the in house agency for Keurig Dr Pepper is? I believe it’s called liquid sunshine.

Anyone work at Diageo or previously work for them and have a POV on what they're like IE. Culture, work life balance, are they currently on a hybrid working model?

Or is the organization just one to avoid?

Just want to rant. Failed an interview because I brought up ranger school being the reason I left the military. Cont. Below.

In the early stages of the interview process. Was told there wouldn’t be a case interview, but a technical interview instead. What should I expect?

Can H1B approved under consular processing but yet to be activated be transferred to another employer and can the new employer apply for transfer and change of status?

Hi All,

Does LTI provide revised offer letter with new joining date and new salary structure?

If yes how much time it takes?

Thank You

Should I transition to a tech sales job? Thoughts on risk vs reward? I am 34 yo, married with a baby incoming. I work at Google Cloud in solutions engineering (I help develop quantitative business cases with sales teams for customers). My cash base + bonus is $220k (going to ignore equity). I have an MBA from the University of Chicago, not that it matters much in sales. I have always been in a consulting role but I think I can make more in sales. I have a competitive personality and I am bored.

Chase Freedom vs Freedom Unlimited for everyday spend?
Plan to transfer points to my CSR.
Non traveling consultant

Friends,
Need your help to know data tables and fields for a report I have to prepare on following problem
- Goods are produced but quantities don't not match when they are moved to warehouse from plant. So a report showing produced quantity and received at warehouse and if there is any logistic data that can help investigate.
Thanks!

Anyone else’s projects not have much work?

Anyone know the base salary for VP position at Visa North America?

Our 5 month old started daycare about 5 weeks ago. We’ve already had to keep her home for 2.5 of those 5 weeks due to catching various illnesses (croup, rsv, brinchiolitis, etc). Both my wife and I have been sick most of that time as well (gotten it from the baby). Wife is thinking we get a full time nanny for the next 4 months to help the baby build antibodies. Cost aside, is this feasible / worthwhile to go thru the effort / finding the right fit, only for 4 months?

Any recommendations for a umbrella stroller? Our Uppababy Vista is way too big to lug around everywhere.

Took my 2 year old daughter to the dentist and she found 4 cavities. We’ve been teaching her to brush her teeth before bed & after meals(unsuccessfully) so far.
She’s needs sdf treatment according to the dentist, any suggestions on how to move after the treatment as it leaves black coverage on the teeth. (She’s too young for crowns and what not)

Sheesh I was really excited that this bowl existed….the. Saw that it’s not active at all 😂 Guess everyone’s on the what to expect app!

Dads with older children: while raising your children, did your children prefer their moms over you? I know some will prefer dads over moms, but I assume majority of children out there will prefer their moms over dads… I have one child and it kinda hurts to see my child always preferring the mom over me. I know I shouldn’t feel this way, but I just do. How did you cope with such issue raising your children?

Anyone has an alternative to an Au Pair. Wife and I were looking forward to host an au pair but can’t go through the official program since we are not permanent residents yet. Anyone has an alternative besides traditional daycare? Maybe a friend of a friend? I am in NJ. Any ideas welcomed and needed!

Any recos on great childcare in New York (ideally west village / Chelsea / Greenwich / soho)?

Welcome all to parents in Consulting bowl, please post a little bit about yourself, number of kids and their ages!

Hi all! I was asked coordinate a local happy hour for my team. The issue I’m having is that I’m currently pregnant and am not sure if I’m comfortable to hang out with strangers. What’s the most professional way to say no without hurting feelings / burning bridges? Or should I suck it up and go?

Hi everyone, first timer here. Having some issues w. our 4 yo being pushed around and bullied at preschool. He’s really sad and upset. He’s also super shy & introvert. Any advise? Pep talk? Discuss with teacher?

About to be a new dad. Starting to look into childcare but feeling a little overwhelmed. Would love to hear thoughts/opinions on what to look for besides convenience.

First time Dad and my 15 month old keeps running up the stairs at my in-laws place and they keep encouraging it. Stairs are almost 10 inches high with nothing underneath and I’m worried that he might slip and fall in between the stairs. My FIL is a bit of a know-it-all and keeps insisting it’s safe and I don’t agree. What do I do? Don’t want to fight the entire house full of people about this and kid enjoys it too much and cries a lot if I/we prevent him from climbing

Any parents under H1B? I was@looking to get an au pair for kids and got to know that I cannot host one because I don’t have a green card yet. Any options? I heard people get au pairs that have another year remaining in their visa but couldn’t find one yet

I am getting ready to send my 2 year old toddler to a toddler program next week for the first time. Have to fill out a form “bathroom waiver”, which is basically allowing teachers at the school to clean my child after a potty, including genital area. I feel uneasy about this but I know I have to let them… I assume all parents have signed such waiver?

What Christmas gift can I get a 3 year old boy? He loves cars and all things transportation related. And has a ton of toys. I want to get him something very thoughtful that he can engage, learn or just have fun.

Starting a new job next week and when do I tell my coworkers that I have a newborn? Male asking.

Any parents who are still on the safe side with Covid? We have a 1 year old and being safe and staying mostly home is really getting to me. Most of our friends have kids who are able to mask up or are vaccinated and it’s getting quite isolating. Especially now mask mandates are being lifted feeling like we can’t go anywhere without risking our kid.

EY 🐠 - potentially starting with the firm soon, and my partner is due to have our first in April. Given the 1 year service requirement for leave, would I have the option to take PTO during birth and use parental leave after my 1 year of service? Appreciate any guidance here

Consulting Baby Shower question - what was the best baby shower gift you ever received?