I am partnered with a functioning alcoholic and having a really hard time not being hard on myself. I know his drinking isn’t my problem, but I don’t know why I allowed myself to get in this situation

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If you helped someone deal with that successfully (whatever that may mean), don't you think that'd be a life well lived by definition?

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Continued: I am having trouble dealing with the feelings of failure. I want him to get better, and I am having a hard time letting go to prioritize myself. I find that when hasn’t had a drink that I think this is workable, but then my therapist reminded me that things are cyclical. Any thoughts on dealing with these feelings?

It may not be your problem, but it certainly does effect you. Did you know he was an alcoholic before getting involved? Are you married or is this a relationship you can end and move on (you say “partnered with” so I’m not sure what that means)?

It does affect me. I am not married, but we live together and have some comingled finances. I can end, but we are very intertwined.

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