I feel like my ex is trying to slowly come back into my life (has contacted me a couple times and hearing things through the grapevine). I’ve been seeing someone else I’m interested in and want to continue that.

Not really looking for any specific advice, I just don’t really know how I feel about it. I feel like she gave up on me and us, and now she’s maybe realizing that she messed up.

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Has her behavior changed at all or has she mentioned how she’s feeling/what she’s thinking? If she’s just bread crumbing you then ignore her or say you’re seeing someone. If she’s given you a big speech about starting again then maybe listen, but only if she’s saying what you deserve and can give you what you want!

No just been hearing things through our friends. And been reaching out to me about random things that aren’t important being passive aggressive like I did something to hear. For example “sorry I think about you” and “you made it clear we aren’t friends”

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