I know my friends and family respect me for working so hard in my career, but things can get heated in social situations. Specifically, everyone jokes about me being a narc (certain substances aren't legal in my state). I'm all for legalizing marijuana, etc. but it's not legal here yet. I'm just doing my job. How can I move on from these conversations without seeming defensive or petty?

Who hates being micromanaged by your boss? I had to deal with a boss who had to be involved with every little thing and it drove me nuts, and made me feel like she didn’t trust me.

Has anyone had a Manager that does not work well with your ADHD? Im going through this right now and the way they communicate doesn’t match what I need. If I ask questions, they huff and puff. But then get upset if something is done and it doesn’t meet their exact expectations. It’s sucks that I don’t have enough interest to continuously focus on the projects, but now I have even less motivation because I dread dealing with my manager.

A partner emailed you, recognizing your hard work and thanking you (you billed aweful lot of hours this month). Do you respond or not?

So without getting hate mail... I’m a gay man in a very gay-friendly office, but find that there is no ‘right’ time to bring it up. No one on my team talks about relationships, but sometimes I (contd)

What is something you want in a partner but is so absolutely ridiculous and can't put it in your profile?

E.g., they must be into manga/anime, but not to the point they drag me to a con to cosplay

Very new to EY so sorry if it’s a dumb question but why is it suggested that you should never work directly with your counselor (as your acting engagement manager)?

How do you tell your boss you're quitting without burning bridges? Please note we're in busy season for the engagements I've been staffed on, which is what makes me nervous and guilty. TIA

PARTNERS: two questions —1. If you see an associate has really low hours for the month, do you imagine them chillen on a beach somewhere or do you consider they probably spent most of their days sitting in front of the computer being “available”? 2. If you send an associate a random e-mail on a weekend like “Can you pull X and send to Y”, would you get annoyed if they responded saying they weren’t by a comp or would you consider it reasonable that they wouldn’t be by a comp on a weekend?

What’s the proper etiquette for telling your team that you’ll be switching service lines?

I have a crush on my counsellor at work. She's much older but still really gracious and beautiful. Should I go for it or is this a bad idea?

Met this really cute guy at national training, exchanged phone number, but he's heading back to home office tomorrow. Advice?

A creative team I started working with recently has decided to ignore my every comment. They take feedback from anyone else but me, and whenever I push them to make said changes, they just pick fights and make snarky comments. Anyone have any idea why this might be?

My boss in my creative agency threatened to fire me because I, a male, came into work with my nails painted. HR is having a very complicated day today as I found out I could take legal action if he does fire me since we don't have an established dress code that has any guidelines against male nail polish wearing.

What is the worst reaction you’ve had after giving your notice? I just gave notice and I have never had a boss that tried as hard to make me change my mind as this one. Offered me basically anything I wanted.

How big of a red flag is it that a company doesn’t have a marketing strategy/plan in place? I’ve been asking for this from my director but alway get some type of an excuse so I’m starting to believe there isn’t one. We are a company with over 200+ employees and 4+ locations

My manager micro manages everything I do, and I’m losing my mind. Wanted to see how any of you have handled a manager like this, and get some advice on how to tell them to literally stop.

I am the lovable fool in my team 😊

Has your boss ever forgotten to pay your commission? Happened to me today. Actually to our entire sales team. Advice for how to respond?

Got approached by a recruiter for the first time!!! Don’t know why I’ve got my panties in a bunch and I’m super excited haha

Do you dress up to go into the office?

How is everyone picking wedding colors??

Anyone is a tech role in healthcare ? If so what is your title so you enjoy it?

Hi All ,

I am joining Accenture applied AI in Pune as my joining location. Will they ask me to relocate to Bangalore or Mumbai ?

Hello everyone,

I’m new to the group and Im looking to start the IVF process. I have a few questions if you all can assit w/ info. & experience, where the best place to start?

Thanks

My beta hcg level is 21 after embryo transfer. Is it game over for me? They want to retest in two days

Can anyone provide honest review of KAS services a subsidiary of KMART in terms of job security and WLB in analytics domain?

Hey Corporate Gang,

Help me unlock my DMs..

Thanks in advance!

What's up with the aggressive driving in Seattle?

Does anyone have 2 Google home max speakers? If so, how do you use them? (E.g. separate rooms, pairs). Have had one for a year. Can get another half price. Is it worth it?

How often does anyone feel burned out? At what point does anyone say enough of this shit after feeling ignored by your company? Keep in mind that this is work at home.

I need to perform well after months of bad performance for 6 months to not get fired I'm scared but want to do it impossible?

Looking to go to Cancun, mayakoba/playa del Carmen, or Tulum in May. Nicest hotel recs? Some of the mayakoba ones look to be best I think? Hard to tell. Appreciate any advice!

Question: what’s best practice for LinkedIn? Listing all the agencies you’ve freelanced at in your description, or having each stint in your job history?

Just received mail.that i have been put in resource plan.

What does it mean?

Ok production companies. Say I’ve got 3 weeks for you to divide up until I need to shoot. How much time do you want to bid/treat the job and how much do you want to prep? 1 week bid/treat, 2 weeks prep?

Started talking to this guy through group a group telegram and one day he offered to pay for my lunch as I had helped him out with something. Since then he has been offering to pay for my dinners, salon visits, shopping etc and I have accepted 3-4 times. I am in a steady relationship and my boyfriend doesn’t know about this. The other guy just says he likes paying for my stuff and there’s no agenda. Is this a little weird?

Have been hunting desperately for childcare bc spouse and I are both FT lawyers trying to handle 4 immunocompromised elementary age kids at home but have been striking out. Have even been considering having one of us take a leave, going part time (career suicide/knock us off partner track) or quitting. Just found someone highly recommended, experienced, patient, etc. Interview went super well but candidate disclosed they are in recovery for substance abuse, last relapse 2 yrs ago. DUI. Thoughts?

Dyslexia! After having our kindergartener son tested (privately) related to ADHD, we were told he may have dyslexia too (which would explain why he struggles so much with phonics but is amazing at sight words). He has a very high IQ. As a voracious reader, I am finding myself unexpectedly distraught that something that I have loved so much will be such a struggle for him, and worrying that it will affect his motivation and may steer him away from things he may otherwise love.
Tips/Commiseration?

Some people mentioned au pairs... tell me more! Why did you like/not like it, if you did the au pair thing?

How do you deal with the stress of knowing that other people on your team are working weekends and you aren’t? I’m a mom with two kids so working in weekends is tough for me. Cont. in comments:

Where would you begin w/ setting up your own solo practice? I am a military veteran and in need of some serious help (w/ starting a business that is). It is a long story, of which I might reveal more depending on the responses in the thread. Thanks in advance for entertaining such a broad question!

My wife and I are both terrible housekeepers and our clutter is overwhelming us. We have two kids under 3 and a wonderful nanny but we need more help at home. How do we throw money at this problem? Where do we start to get ongoing professional help decluttering, organizing, cleaning, etc.? What has worked for you?

Do you pay out of pocket on insurance premiums at your firm? My wife may leave her job to stay home and we’re on her insurance. My firm told me we’re $750/pay period or $18k/yr. that sounds absurd.

Sometime I feel like I'm operating at lower capacity than during the height of Covid trying to navigate billables and no childcare/remote school. Anyone else feel this way? Are we just burnt out from all the working nights and weekend in 2020/2021?

How do you manage the constant school cancellations? Do I need a nanny in addition to daycare?

What are we supposed to do with our kids during Winter break when school is closed for TWO WEEKS and we need to hit our billables?

Biglaw parents, where do you choose to live and why? Somewhere close to work to avoid commute and spend more time with kids? Suburbs?

Brand new (like, just-had-a-kid new) mom here. Life seems manageable with the baby sleeping much of the time. It gets worse from here doesn’t it? I’m scared 😱😱😱

I’m having trouble transitioning from work to home. What do you guys do to get yourself in the “home” mind so you can be fully present for your kids? What are your transition routines?

Has anyone taken on side gigs here? In transactional real estate and could really use the extra money. I’m in-house and drowning in bills. Where did you post and what kind of insurance did you get?

My wife often calls me by 5:45/6 to ask where I am if I’m not headed home yet. Sometimes she’s stressed with kids/dogs/dinner and really wants me home. This really throws off my concentration because it makes me feel rushed. Like many practices sometimes I’m out at 5:30, other times it’s much later. Just depends and is unpredictable. Any advice on how to approach this?

Curious to know what the norm is — does your firm prorate your bonus for time that you are out on paid parental leave?

Going back to work next month. Have a full time nanny but feel like even that isnt enough. I work all sorts of timezones. Europe has my morning, Asia has my evening. Nanny 9-5? 7-3? 10-6? No clue what will work best and don’t want to be inconsistent with her. Any advice on the return?

My two young toddlers are home from daycare for the next 1.5 weeks for the holidays, and I have off work to watch them. It’s only been 2 days, and I’m so exhausted that I’m counting down the days until I go back to work and they are in daycare. Does anyone have any tips for enjoying this time? I love my kids so much, but how do SAHMs do this every day? I’m so drained already, and I have no patience left…

If you could go back and start over would you still choose this path? Or would you choose a different career and/or a different time to have children? I accidentally became a working parent in law so while I love my job and my children I don't think I would have planned it quite like this.

NDAs for Nannies? I was wondering how everyone who is doing some work from home during covid handles in-house caregivers? Obviously we all take all steps to protect confidential information and realistically a caregiver isn't going to be exposed to anything we do, but does anyone require an NDA just to be on the safe side? (I dont have an in home caregiver yet, but just thinking about it.)