I met someone a few months ago and wasn’t ready for a relationship. She was amazing. Best dates, good chemistry, and I think about her even though we didn’t date for long. I wasn’t in a good place and didn’t want to drag her into it. She said she appreciated me for being upfront so that she could make room for something else. We ended on a good note but haven’t spoken since. Thinking about reaching out to her but not sure if I missed my chance…

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Reach out. I once reached out in a similar situation. It didn’t work in the end but am glad I reached out.

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Reach out!! There’s still time

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