I’m at this point where I think I need a therapist to help me leave my relationship. I know this is toxic and I know I need to leave. But we have a house and dogs and I still picture a future with him. An unhappy one but I can’t bring myself to do it. I need someone to help me understand why I’m like this. I know, this is so stupid. Idk what’s wrong with me.

Seriously don't know how to get a boyfriend as an IB analyst, most people who are in a relationship started dating since college. Really don't want to be single when I'm 30•••

I have added a daily routine of giving my wife of foot rub when we unwind at the end of the day, and it has been awesome for our marriage. It’s an easy way to be supportive and take care of someone who takes care of you, and it’s a great way to unwind for me because it requires just the right amount of engagement to be present. I take the time to listen empathetically to my wife’s day and just be there for her. It only took me about 15 minutes to learn some great and easy techniques on YouTube!

My family/friends ask me for store discounts all the time. It's really uncomfortable to say no, but I have to. Any tips on how to handle these conversations?

Would you recommend Sedona during Christmas or San Diego during Christmas with a 1.5 year old? Entertainment, safety, meaningful experience-focused.

Sedona will be much colder, possibly snowing/icy and will be hiking, hot tub, enjoying the scenery focused. San Diego will be beach, enjoying scenery focused. Both Airbnb options look beautiful. Will also have 60 year old grandparents joining

Tips for helping kids stay on task during zoom? Our little class (9 kids) has been doing zoom circle times twice a week but I noticed they are really distracted. Also every meeting a kid leave...

Gift ideas for GF dad? We have been dating a year and a half, I get along with him super well. He is dealing with some medical complications so isn’t to active at the moment but loves cooking and golfing. He is one of those guys who already has everything he needs, and they are super wealthy so I feel bad getting him any clothing or accessories knowing it wouldn’t be as nice as the things he wears, although I know he doesn’t expect anything and would genuinely appreciate anything I got him

My girlfriend is willing to break off our entire relationship because she found out my mom doesn't approve of her. We have no issues between each other but she said she can't be with someone who's family doesn't like her.

Anyone who said no to a prospect because of personal reasons? Going through a rough patch and would really appreciate some advise on how to do it without burning (that many) bridges.

Just moved to Chicago and looking to make new friends.

Age 26, if that matters

I’ve learned recently about some traumatic events that family members of mine have gone through but I had no idea had occurred. Besides my parents divorcing I really have not experienced that many hardships or trauma in my life. Sometimes it makes me worry if I’m due for something bad to happen, if the other shoe was going to drop at some point. I know hardships are a part of life and I feel like I have had far less than normal

Have you been able to spend more time with your kids during the pandemic? How?

Has anyone successfully pursued a relationship with someone they met at work? An MD I am really attracted to has been chasing me, but I am nervous about what the repercussions could be if it doesn't work out. Still, it's tempting

Question: Girl friends parents finally came over for a ristha. Everything went great or so I thought but now she wants to time to think about moving forward. The pain point she brought up is that we are in different states and she is feeling pressed. Although in that time she has started communicating less and I literally had to beg her to get on face time. My gut says she wants to end it but unsure. Any advice ? It's been 2 weeks since this event

My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 8 months now. We talk every single day online and recently I went to visit her for around a month. It was great and it seemed like the relationship was stronger than ever. But one week back after visiting her, I felt a strange detachment from her and our conversation topic got repetitive and stale quick. Any advice?

I’ve been in a relationship now for two years. We are living together. We talk about the future etc. I could easily see myself marrying her. However, I have an issue… cont

My boyfriend just found my vibe...

Have you walked away from somebody you loved? And why?

HELP...New Term...New Kids...Day 3... 1 kids is on Remote Learning with no home internet...I need 10 days of unplugged activities...he is in 6th gr...TIA

This bowl has been quiet and I see partners commenting on odd posts around fishbowl so I figure you need more fodder: partners, did any of you have parents that travelled as much as you do?

My kids were really upset with me when I told them that my job as an engineer did not mean that I drove trains for a living

What’s the inside scoop on GALE agency NYC?

Anyone know why PRL has shot up?

Hi i got 15.9 CTC and 50k joining in thoughtworks and 19.7 CTC and 50 k kooning includes 3.7 lacs as variable pay in sg. i have 4 yoe..which one to choose. Please suggest.Thoughtworks Societe Generale

How EY split is going to impact people in Strategy/Management consulting?
PS: All hands just beat around the bush.

Any SAP folks out here ???
Need some insights

How much CTC can we expect from EY for US TAX Advanced analyst position.

Thanks in advance.

What's the review process for firms. I have people getting rejected but I haven't heard anything. Is it interviews, offers, rejections? Or is it review/ interview and rejections then offers.

Hi everyone,
I am looking out for a job in Forensic/Fraud/Whistleblowing Investigations. I have 7 years of experience in this field. Reference would be appreciated.

I am not aware of any such openings.
Please revert if your company has such opportunities.

Thanks

Hi Fishes,

I am looking out for an opportunity in HR preferred location is Hyderabad, would be a Sr HR Manager role, I have an experience of 14+ years in HR. I am an Immediate joiner.
I can share my resume directly if there are any suitable roles that you can refer me to.

Regards

What careers pay the best in the Uk?

What are your tips on convincing a fellow employee not to switch agencies? I really don't want to compete with them

How do y’all deal with people at work who are stuck on stupid? Like they have no idea what they’re talking about and they REFUSE to learn. It’s like they have a god complex or something even with proof, maybe bc of their tenure at the company? Even if there’s valid data backing up that they’re wrong. Maybe it’s bc I’m a type 8 enneagram, but it frustrates the hell out of me!
So any advice would be lovely :)

Seriously don't know how to get a boyfriend as an IB analyst, most people who are in a relationship started dating since college. Really don't want to be single when I'm 30•••

Hey folks.. got some family problems back in home country, planning to move back to India. Can anyone hook me up with any good opportunities there?

Got 6 years of business consulting experience.

Case 1: complaining about a date insisting on picking up the check as it makes them feel less independent.
Case 2: agreeing on 50/50, then being upset about why the date never picks up the check or treats them after 3 months of dating

In both cases, posted 5 days apart, they were advised to find someone else as it seems their date doesn’t respect their values (case 1) or value them enough to spend money on them (case 2).

Well, just 🤯

Best prework that won’t kill me? F 32 looking for a morning pick me up before gym/cardio
Low cal/low sugar if possible

Bhai diwali ka gift nahi aya abhi tak. Agli diwali tak wait krna hoga?

It’s such an unsettling feeling to want to hear from someone and not want to at the same time. I’m shocked I haven’t thrown my phone against a wall. My mind wants a Rage Room but my body is exhausted and just wants sleep.

Any suggestions for how to keep my mind and body busy? My job is painfully slow and not challenging and I’ve started to re read old texts and have OD’d on Matthew Hussey videos. What are practical things I can start to help turn this next chapter? Besides job hunting! I feel like I need to throw myself into something worthwhile that I feel good about! I just don’t have inspiration or motivation right now. I feel flat.

I hope he’s in as much pain as I am. The way he ended it was so cold and selfish and unlike how he was any other time with me. It was like a personality switch. I’ve never been so wrong about someone. I’m not sure how to process or recover from that part of it.

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

Do you tell your boss you’re going through a breakup? I’m phoning it in and obviously going to be camera off for awhile.

I’m so happy this bowl exists 🥹🫶🏼

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

As much as I know I need to go through this. Today - I just felt so lonely. I was clingy and needy to strangers and just want to make some sort of physical connection with a human.

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

My partner of 5 years ended our relationship last night. I’m shattered and feel absolutely sick, and I know the healing isn’t going to be easy. We were on the verge of an engagement and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

I don’t know how to approach work during this time. I think I can get by, but I’m definitely not 100%. Should I talk to my boss about it? My team is close-knit and comfortable around each other, but I don’t know if it’s “appropriate.” What would you do?

Here to tell you guys that each of us mending from either leaving a bad relationship or having some leave us: things are going to be amazing for us! I believe if for myself and I am so happy! And meeting new people is FUN. Laughing with friends and being yourself, away from all the drama, pain. Liberate yourself by deciding this breakup is your evolution into your best self!

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

It’s week 5 for me of the breakup and even though I had a full and fun weekend with friends and people I love, I woke up today so so sad because I wanted to text my ex. I just feel overall so defeated and exhausted from sadness and unmotivated at work :(

The biggest thing I keep running and running around my head- after 8 months, why did he drop me? When he texted ending it l….it wasn’t me, like we weren’t us, his words were from someone else, like I didn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how much it wasn’t about me, how he chose to end it, and that’s what crushed me. Who I thought I knew was wrong. I want to know how close he was to loving me.

I just need some Brugal rum, Aventura or Romeo Santos songs on repeat all night…