My new boyfriend has a daughter with his previous girlfriend and i can't help but feel bad about it. I feel like his daughter will always be more important than me and it makes me mad/sad. Advice?

Pregnant with our first and my husband was wondering - any resource recs for soon to be first rind dads? Either talking about pregnancy, baby, or both?

I just started a new job and am about to be 36. I want to start a family but I feel like I should be waiting due to this new job. However I don’t want to miss out. I’m thinking about freezing my eggs

Anyone have any similar experience or insight? My boyfriend asked for space/not really together anymore and he says he started to become nervous about being in a long term committed relationship. Even tho he said he saw me as long term & I’m his best friend and he loves me but why then? Does space help you guys figure it out? (Help / advice please😞)

Been seeing a guy for the past few months. Went to watch a movie on Netflix last night and saw that my ex is in a new series. Talk about mood killer. Now I can’t stop thinking about him 😞
He tends to pop in to my head at least once a month. How can I move past this?

Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

I've been so lucky to have tons of friends giving me hand me downs but it seems like it might be too much if I accept everything. What are the absolute necessaries that I should accept multiples of and what can I pass on?

Well that’s the end of that! Madi & Peter broke up. I’m sure the rumors about him sleeping with Kelly & a producer + reaching out to Hannah B had something to do with it 🙄

Hi! Have any here gone the natural cycle IVF route? What was your experience like? Did you have success in growing your family this way? Would you recommend it to others?

35F divorced with a kid. I think I will never get remarried or in a serious relationship again. Lots of men don't like dating women with children. At my age either the guys are past their prime, divorced/ing and have to provide half their income to their first wife. Many with kids live on the same street as their ex wives so they can be close to their child. I'm not comfortable dating guys like that. On the flip side there are the ones that were never married, which by this age cont

How many married professionals with young families are just sticking it out “for the kids”? Marriage is very dead and has been for a while. Young kids 4 and 1. My wife and I don’t fight, but share 0 interests outside of the kids and can’t stand to be around each other. I’m so ready to leave… I just can’t bear the thought of doing it to my children even though another part of me feels like wife and I would both be better parents if our lives were separate. Anyone else done a similar analysis?

Anyone in late 20s-early 30s in nyc looking for friends?

My girlfriend is willing to break off our entire relationship because she found out my mom doesn't approve of her. We have no issues between each other but she said she can't be with someone who's family doesn't like her.

Looking for perspective: Did money play a role in evaluating whether someone could be your life partner?

Can we all agree that gender reveal parties are an annoying thing to subject your friends to?

My sister might divorce with her husband, they have a baby of 1.5 year. We came from a divorce family and honestly never thought it would happen again - I feel powerless and I don’t know what to do. I feel bad for my sister but I am also mad at her (the fault is always in the middle) because they are not trying to fix it. I am also scared for the baby, I perfectly know what it means to grow up in a divorce family and as much as parents are present is not the same.

AITA: My friend keeps asking me for financial advice. I set up a budget for her and have her concrete advice. And I field all of her investing questions. But still, she continues to be reckless with her money. She’s 42, single (no kids), and making $100k+ and is still living check to check.

I don’t want to waste my breathe on helping her since nothing seems to be getting through to her. AITA?

I’ve been working to an unhealthy degree lately. And I’ve been making the excuse that I have a lot of work right now, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m addicted to it. Part of it is anxiety and perfectionism. But my behavior is now actively harmful to myself and starting to harm my marriage.

How do I stop? I’m not talking work-life balance. I mean, how do I say, “I don’t care that the client wants this tomorrow and I’m not close to done, I’m going to sleep tonight”?

Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me right before we were supposed to leave the state and move in together. We broke up about 4 months ago. I couldn’t demonize her, so I’m still struggling with processing it and idk what to do. I’ve been looking into therapy, but I can only do online which leaves me hesitant. Any advice would be appreciated.

Anybody willing to help a broke kid out with some mock interview prep?

Last night I went over to my friends house (she has 2 kids, 2 and 4 yo). She and her husband were asking me about my pregnancy and planning. And were asking what I’ve prepped to date. I’m only 13w2 days so I think it’s way to early for buying stuff, but I did mention we hired a baby nurse for when the baby comes. My friend completely berated me, short of calling me a bad mom already, saying “what is she going to do all day? Don’t you want to bond with your child?”. I’m so upset by this.

Hi BNY employees,

What was your last rating ? Hike % & bonus % of CTC ?

Provide your input in comment.

I’m in the process of creating a process where i can enter a solicitation number (or numbers) and get a ranked list of similar opportunities and award past and present. Does this already exist?

What carrer shifts could CSMs make?

I made the unusual transition from SDR To CSM. Considering switching roles or going to full on account management roles.

Thoughts?

Hello everyone.

There are multiple openings in Deloitte USI for US Taxation. Open positions are TC 2, Tax Senior, Tax Manager in almost all Tax groups. I can provide a referral to anybody who needs it.

I have started exploring opportunities at Big tech and Fin Tech. My biggest challenge has been that all roles are individual contributors roles - looking at non product (bizops, BD, strategy etc.) ...

A summer associate has a side hustle business. It’s ok until they are barred right?

Hi Fishes,

I am working in Capgemini past 2.5 yrs in Power Bi domain and total i have 5 yrs of exp in IT industry. But my salary is same as my experience 5 LPA. I know i am getting underpaid. If anyone can refer me help me out ...i can give him my first salary... I am at a high debt.

Here’s a question for the recruiters out there: do you want to see my portfolio?
I just started freelancing after having been FT for a long time. Top agency experience, Cannes Lions, NYC-based, DM me!

What salary to expect at a Director level at PwC in Saudi Arabia? I am a brit with over 15 years experience in transformation consulting, and never worked in the ME!

Read that new Strategy analysts are being offered 100K coming in. Is that for Strat only or all of S&C? Will this band be applied to current analysts too?

I selected a Lenovo laptop but was sent a Dell. What's the chances I'll be able to request a replacement with a Lenovo after onboarding? I want a Lenovo because I'm love my TrackPoint nub!

Whats the salary range for a senior analyst for a new joiner in nyc region?

Currently 1 YOE tech consulting at Deloitte looking to make a hop to more strategy type roles and came across the strategy analyst development program- 1. is this only for fresh undergrads from specific schools or would I be able to apply? 2. What’s the compensation at this level? (worried I might have to take a pay cut). Also would appreciate any remarks regarding the program in general. Thanks!

We gotta get this bowl popping, I wanna hear some juicy NYC related stuff: funny stories, career advice, industry gossip etc.

How much does a Senior in audit make in Big4s ? Looking for an upgrade and switch. TIA

Hi everyone , I’m trying to build an email template with cross objects. I know that doesn’t work but is there a work around?

Has anyone had a service dog? Did you bring them to work? Looking for experiences and feedback. TIA!

I went to excellent schools, passed all my cpa exams the first time around in 3 months, got a job at a Big4, work on the biggest client in my office. Yet I constantly feel like I don’t belong cont...

How do you detach from work? I’m wired at this point to be so attached that even when I’m off I’m super stressed out, and have to look at emails and keep up or else I get severe anxiety. Anybody?

I over think & analyze. I’m very sensitive to people’s comments & reactions. Always been that way for as long as I can remember and I feel like I don’t have what it takes to succeed in corporates...

Earlier this year I was making $75k as an FA and now $90k as an SFA in OC which is pretty much market value (4yrs exp - 2 in B4). I wanted that raise to $90k for a while and now that I have it, I catch myself thinking about wanting more & more money, even though I have more than enough to live out my means. Anyone else think about this often? And how can I stop?

I've started doing meditation with this group called The 'Art of Living' in New York City, and it's honestly changed my life. Can't recommend it enough for dealing with the stresses of modern life.

Wanting to start therapy for social anxiety/depression but no idea where to start. Those that see a therapist, how often do you usually go? Ball park price range? Has anyone tried online therapists?

Anyone else feel lethargic and sleepy? I feel like I'm getting very slow and dull mentally and physically. How can I stop this? Work out? Eat more fruits?

I'm on the verge of a panic attack. help

How do you maintain focus? I find myself distracted every 2 minutes.

I feel like I have adult ADHD but I don't know how to get it tested to be sure and then get help.

How do you know when it’s time to get help? I’ve never seen a mental health professional but I just don’t feel like myself lately, a lot of which I think is attributed to quarantine.

Has anyone taken leave after a very painful break up?

This is kinda weird but is anyone paranoid? I've been so paranoid lately. Like if I'm driving, I visualize me in a car crash. If my parents call, I get paranoid that they have bad news.

Anyone else?

Feeling so meh lately about what the meaning of life is. Am I just supposed to wake up, try to workout, work forever, try to eat healthy and try to budget/save in my personal life. feeling very....

Was at the beach with friends and had one really down day there where I didn’t feel happy at all. Since I got back 2.5 days ago I’ve done nothing but watch tv, sleep, and barely eat. I hate this

My sister and I have recently both come to the realization that our parents guilt us into spending time with them or visiting them and the guilt causes us both to shut down. Our dad is the main offender, often reminding us how little time we have left with him, asking us why we’re leaving so soon or reminding us about all the good deeds and sacrifices made. We’ve both noticed this shift in our relationship with our parents after graduating from college and starting our own adult lives. Continued

Burned out&cant cope. Advice needed plz. Feel I can’t prioritize bcos everything important & urgent and diff managers drag back onto projects. How do you pick projects for week & JUST focus on them?

Does any one else have small panic attacks throughout the day? There are sudden moments where I feel overwhelmed and I can’t breathe so I force myself to go to the bathroom or to my car to calm down..