Not my first heartbreak and probably not the hardest. But boy, do they suck no matter what.

I thought I saw the ex playing beach volleyball today (though not 100% sure), and that just reopened some wounds. Reminder that I'm not fully over her.

It's been 4 months and I just started dating again but don't feel like my heart is in it.

Is it better to take more time off or better to put myself out there? I know that I need to be whole and happy myself first and not look for happiness elsewhere

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I don’t think you need to be 100% healed to date. I think surrounding yourself with new people and processing uncomfortable emotions will help with the process. Take it 1 day at a time and only be around people who you’re curious about and make you feel good!

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Thank you, PM1 and EP1.

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Take the time is it’s still that triggering. You don’t have to be completely healed to go out - but you should be comfortable in where you are in your recovery.

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