Please, anyone in my position?

My partner doesn't support my work. I'm SDR with a tech company. I am the bread winner working less hrs than him and bloody love my job . I also get to travel international maybe 3/4 a yr. Husband cant cope and the house falls to ruins. His family gets involved and tells my children 13,12 and 5 that mummy's job isn't a real job because it's in sales and I work from home. I have no support from them and I'm up for a promotion which would be amazing to take on.

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Sounds like your partner and you need marital counseling he seems to foster some resentment that you are the bread winner, he needs to step up to the plate and chip in not balk just because he feels you as the woman should be keeping house, and his family needs to stay out of it

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You love being an SDR….?

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SDR is a great starting point but it’s just a stepping stone to AE or somewhere up!

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I've tried talking to him about how unsupportive he is and he said it's family first and that my work should come last. Which in hindsight yes. I'm so happy working. He works full time and managers a big team of 30 . He's a IT manager for health care practice.

Does he put family first or are you the only one expected to do it?
Let’s say this marriage goes south, what will you be left with?! That’s something I personally always think about even in my current relationship. If all pf this end, in what situation will I find myself.

I’d say take the promotion but it’s up to you to decide.

I'm so sorry. This kind of situation really breaks my heart. Have you tried talking to your husband? Make him understand your situation.

I would seek therapy to really understand each other and the situation at hand.

I honestly think your overreacting. It’s your work you don’t need his support . As far as his parents saying things to the kids , that’s what old people do , they say stupid shit to our kids. We teach them to be better

I know someone who got divorced because of that. She was an EMEA SE Director and One day she made a comment about how she’s going threw a divorce because her ex husband was of much help anyway

Sounds like he is into very traditional gender roles and wants you at home not working. However it is your life and you get to choose what makes you happy. Talk to him and tell him honestly how you feel. If two working people are too much for your family then maybe he can be a stay at home Dad for a while. My guess is that he will not be willing to put “family first “ himself and do that. If he can’t handle the house and kids while you travel then look into hiring a housekeeper and cook for those times.

Take it and put your husband to work. If you can afford it get a nanny or maid that comes over a few times a week to keep house going

Leave that man

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