Sister-in-law got engaged a few months back and says she’s probably going to get married abroad (due to fiancé’s family living abroad). It would require $1000/person plane tickets and ~20 hours of travel. We really need to start planning/budgeting but she hasn’t set a date yet (or even given a year estimate). Is there a point where we can bug her? If it’s next year we kinda need to know ASAP

I’m happy with my relationship but the thing is I never really have a spark with the girl. Can someone relate or explain? I’m not sure if I should keep doing this. Maybe I’m just in an comfort zone now?

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Just need to vent.

My SO was going through some issues over a year ago and decided to use the counselor services provided through her workplace. She mentioned that her plan only covered some sessions so she was trying to figure how she could continue counseling. That was that.

We've been trying to better our savings now that we have a baby and I've been trying to figure out our expenses for months now but I'm always off. I finally realized a few months ago that she continued counseling. More..

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

It’s week 5 for me of the breakup and even though I had a full and fun weekend with friends and people I love, I woke up today so so sad because I wanted to text my ex. I just feel overall so defeated and exhausted from sadness and unmotivated at work :(

Important question! Any strategies for getting out of work zoom happy hours? Other than ignoring requests and not showing up, which has been my MO so far. But it’s getting a bit awkward.

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

Does anyone have family members who constantly demand money because they feel like you’re rich now because you’re a lawyer? I’ve always wanted to be in a position to help my family but we all live in the high COL city so my salary doesn’t carry me as far as it would elsewhere. I’ve given a detailed summary of all of my expenses yet every month one family member in particular comes to me for rent money (not some, the full amount, and they refuse to get a job). It has become quite the burden.

Confession: The only in-law that I had a great relationship with passed away unexpectedly. The two remaining in-laws were on thin ice with me prior due to years of drama, nagging, and disgusting display of wealth. I believe their demand of money and general assholish behavior drove in law to his death. I love my S.O. but I can’t deal with the drama anymore.

I want to have a family and a future that is drama-free and full of love and don’t want to surround myself with negativity.

Hi guys

This question may not be related. However I wanted to know from personal and family point of view how it is like to relocate from India and live abroad .
Let's say Family consists of husband , wife and a kid . I understand we will get good facilities, education, cleanliness , good air etc , however I wanted to check whether people gel up easily in the new environment? Don't they feel loneliness/ difficult to adjust? Do they look for similar asian nationalities to kill boredom?

Going into busy season as a "step" mom of elementary age kid. Just found out today that we are getting full custody. Husband works and is in school... Advice please!

People that have small children - how do you deal with your child’s stress and separation anxiety when you go to work? My 4-year old goes berserk almost every day at some point relating to me having to work. The worst part is that I’ve been working from home bc of Covid and I’m literally just walking upstairs after giving hugs and kisses and saying see you soon 800 times. My spouse is a stay at home parent, but that doesn’t seem to matter to my son. A piece of me dies everyday because of this.

Anyone here ever had to explain to their family that they want kids, but they’re not interested in marriage? Women especially?

2 days ago i told the resp on the phone i had a divorce petition to mail him and needed his address. He said he would call me back with the address because he was driving, just moved to a new place, and didn't have it memorized. He never gave it to me but i found it anyway and mailed it certified. Today i found out that he cleared out their bank account. Can i do an emergency hearing to get that money back? He does not physically have the petition yet but i definitely told him it was coming.

Do any female desis who are married take care of their own parents?

Anyone be in a relationship where the other has an alcohol problem? Every night out drinking leads to emotional breakdowns and fights. Been going on for 6 months now. Should I break up?

Does EY have anything to help you get connected with an au pair company?

For anyone in this bowl. How crucial is it for you to have a formal dining room separated from the kitchen? My son and daughter-in-law are buying a house for their future family and I'm trying to convince them a formal dining room looks better and makes things less chaotic in the kitchen, especially with kids. Am I out of touch? Or is it still important?

To all the divorced folks out there...

1) What went wrong in your relationship?
2) What's one piece of advice you'd give to us singletons before jumping into a long term relationship/marriage?

I like to learn from other people's mistakes 😅

Job recommendations for someone enjoying TAS (FDD) work, but doesn't want to be as into the weeds/details on the Company's accounting?

If anyone out there is interested in learning more about FDD / Transaction Advisory Services and/or is looking for a position in this field (especially in Seattle), please reach out! I recently came over to RSM from Big 4 and we are actively hiring and building out this team!

I’ve never had plants before, but I want to start having small plants in my bedroom to start with. What’re some good low maintenance ones to start with? Located in the northeast. Thanks!

What can I do/learn/work on to get into MS as senior software engineer. Currently working as firmware developer in IBM ISDL.

Thoughts on the following neighborhoods: 1) area south of Chatfield Lake; 2) Roxborough Park. We are a family with a middle school aged child (and late 30s). Thanks!

What tricks do you guys have to keep you focused for bursts of time? I feel like as soon as I start something, I go back and forth between it and whatever else pops into my mind. Any suggestions are welcomed.

Is there an equivalent to Repvue for the UK or Europe in general? Repvue stats don’t seem to be representative of Europe

Thinking of exiting into Banking / Payments space from USI S&O. Anyone has any leads into places recruiting actively?

Ever run into an issue with CPE? I'm due to renew this yr, for the first FY year I'm not sure I meet the 20 hours min (I switched jobs during this period)... I might need to go inactive then convert?

As my title indicates, I'm both a product and a privacy counsel at my tech co. The product is consumer-facing and deals w/ privacy issues, so lots of overlap. I'm relatively junior, and currently am in the position of being able to commit to one path or the other. Anyone been here before and have thoughts on career progression for the two tracks?

My work priorities, in order: WLB; predictability; $$$; interesting work

What is a decent annual billable requirement? Also, billing tips are appreciated. For some reason I am really struggling. Am I self sabotaging?!

Solos - how did you know when you were ready to hire a FT attorney?

How do vesting schedules typically work for LLCs giving interest to an advisor?

Prior to applying, on average how many current students, alumni, or adcom members did you connect with from each program?

Is it too late to buy the FAANG stocks? Still feel that Amazon and Google are undervalued.

Does anyone have a recommendation for a good premarital counselor in NYC or NJ?

We’re having a destination wedding and I feel selfish/silly for taking a honeymoon after. But I feel like if we don’t do it then we will put it off and it won’t really feel like a “honeymoon”. What would you do?

My stepmom threw me a very elaborate bridal shower. My stepsister pitched in and also did a lot of work for it. Bridesmaids helped but didn’t do a ton. What, if anything should I do for my stepmom and stepsister as a showing of gratitude? I don’t want to spend a lot of $$ but definitely want to act quickly and thoughtfully.

I don't wear a lot of makeup - how far in advance from the ceremony should I be getting it done? Is having it all done 2 hrs before the ceremony too late or too early? I'm not getting pictures done until ceremony and after. Thanks!

If you have a lace wedding dress, would you get a lace veil or a beaded one? It's been hard trying to find similar/exact lace.

How much did you spend on your wedding? Do you regret it? Also please share the location of your wedding if possible. Thank you!

Tux budget NYC?

Putting together a wedding weekend itinerary and have been dealing with a frustrating level of questions from some random in-laws who are known for stirring the pot. Would it be rude to say “please contact x with any questions. Kindly do not direct questions to the bride unless there is an emergency”? What is a better way to say this?

How far out should I be booking my florist? Wedding is 10 months away, not sure what we’ll need quite yet!

For those who had Catholic ceremonies.. What kind of shoes did you wear that had bottom soles that looked nice in pics? In other words, shoes with bottoms that don’t look scratched up when you are kneeling at the altar.

Is a hair and makeup trial really necessary? It seems like such a waste of money.

I just booked my venue for October 2022. I am very excited but want to lose weight to be comfortable on my wedding day. I put on some weight during the pandemic and I am about 40lbs over my comfort weight. Anyone follow a plan that worked for them?

We decided to do a photo session before the wedding for the two of us and family. The photographer and the location were amazing but the makeup was terrible, and because I was low on time, I couldn't fix it before the photos. The makeup artist make me look yellow! Idk if there's anything that could be done at this point, but feeling so disappointed :(

Anyone unsure of what to do for bridesmaids “proposals?” I want them to get excited and feel special but when I see how much money I’d be spending on things like custom totes or mugs I’m like is it really worth it? I’d send cards but most of my bridal party I see pretty regularly/they live nearby so it seems odd to send them something when I live down the street. Help! 😅

Considering getting highlights and/or extensions for my wedding. Is it worth it? Or is it a bad idea to update your hair for the wedding?

Help- my SIL showed me two dresses she rented for my shower, and I think they are super bridal/not very appropriate to wear as a guest or bridesmaid. I have asked others and they agree. I feel like my own outfit, a simple jumpsuit, pales in comparison to how over the top these dresses are. What can I say or do? I feel really down but also don’t want to start WW3 by saying something to her. I feel like I now need to rush to buy a new outfit.

Budget question! How much are you estimating spending per guest? This includes food/alcohol/venue, etc

So my fiancé and I are having a microwedding in Rocky Mountain National Park next year, and we’re working with an elopement planner.
She sent over a sample ceremony (intro, sweet poems + passages to be read, and example vows), and we read through it last night. I was reading it out loud while my fiancé made dinner, and it just hit me that this is really happening. I’m just really happy that I found someone who is willing to take a vow to spend his life with me and I’m so excited for that day :)

We’re having an Indian wedding on a Sunday with ceremony in the morning, followed by lunch, and then cocktail hour + reception.

Given that the wedding starts early, we will have guests (~30) flying in the day before. What is the expectation in terms of arranging dinner for them? We’re trying to avoid having an additional event Saturday night - any idea on if these guests would need to have food arranged for them by us and what that could look like on a cost effective budget.

Typical prices for wedding photography in a high cost of living city? (San Francisco) 2 photographers, 8 hours, no travel. Much appreciated! ❤️