After a break up, I'm meeting people again now.
How do I not compare them with my ex?

How does a person change their mindset to be more positive? I feel like I’m meant for my job, but blame all my life problems on it….having no energy, being single at the age of 30, etc. and it seems like a never ending loop. I look for new jobs, realize I have a good job then am ok for a bit then start it all over again. When I’m off of work I’m fine and realize I have it pretty good. Only real negative is I can’t vacation with my family in March due to my busy time.

I give massive kudos to all the parents out there juggling work and home life. But it’s starting to feel like I pulled the short stick by not having a kid. Really struggling to pick up all of the slack from all of the colleagues that do have kids and feel like the expectation is that parents should turn off while the rest are working from 7am - 2am everyday to make up for it.

Any dads out here? Wife is 20 weeks pregnant with our first and want to connect and know from fellow dads on how are they coping. How are you helping your partner? Feel I am not doing enough. Except for getting ready with the finances.

Pregnant moms, feel free to provide suggestions on what your partner is doing which you really appreciate. I got the foot massage part covered. 😉

ADVICE THREAD

Feel like sharing advice? Which info would have changed your life if you only had known back then?

Any kind of advice is accepted 😉

Any books that you found very helpful to read as expecting parents? We’re just nine weeks along, but would love to start preparing however we can!

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

This is super weird but I feel like I can’t relate easily to people. Hear me out - I moved and lived in different continents, countries every 5 years or so until now… I feel like I’m an outlier and my life is super different from anyone else’s. I have some friends I’ve met at each stage of my life, but it’s been temporary. I feel like I’m always going in a different direction than others. It makes it difficult to have a stable life and close friends..

Hi! I taught State-funded PreK in Georgia for 4 years and I am now on my 2nd year of Kinder. I also taught at a private preschool for 4 years before becoming full time in college. Love birth to 5!

How did you make friends when you moved here?

A guy who is claiming to be in love with me (a black woman and immigrant), is a conservative (pro-trump, anti-gun laws, denies that there is racism etc). Are those red flags to make me cut him off?

Person that I liked (probably even loved) is married. I was too chicken to admit my attraction to this person and instead dated someone else. Pretty sure they liked me too and they are now married.

Is Indy a good place to raise a family? Looking to hear from people who actually live here lol

Ghosted once more after what I thought was a great first date. Guess I’ll give up on love forever.

I've been building a side project with my friend, but they're not putting in as much effort as I am. We've been friends since we entered college together, but it's starting to become too much. Should I talk to them about it?

I got into a small argument with my bf about our future and he said something along the lines that he thinks I don’t want this instead I want to want this. We have resolved the core issue which was mainly a misunderstanding but thinking back at it I think he’s right. I do very often feel like i want to want this because he loves me so much but I am not sure I actually want this …

If you loved your small independent broker dealer but they had just been acquired by a much larger corporation which does have benefits in terms, mostly, in technology, but you lose your “family” in the home office, what would you do and who would you look at if you were considering a change of your own?

Two kids under the age of 8 and I find that I struggle to spend enough quality time with them between their school and activities and my unpredictable job. What do you folks do to be better parents?

The death of my best friend in combat will forever haunt me, no matter how hard I want to accept it and let it go. I've been remembering every day since I came back. It's so hard to deal with this on my own.

What’s the best cadence for sending nurture emails? I’m looking to re-engage partners who haven’t worked with us in X amount of days. The series will be 7 emails and just wondering if anyone has seen more success with emails once a week vs every other week. I typically send nurture emails once a week but curious what success others have found breaking it up. TYIA!

I’m (early30s) about 8 months into a relationship with a 40m. Things are wonderful in every aspect, but he is absolutely atrocious with his finances. I felt it becoming an issue about two months ago. He forgets about auto payments and just generally doesn’t care. I sat down with him and looked at everything and even after talking it out he still continues to stress and it’s now causing me stress. I had a final discussion with him today about it and he went on abt how love isn’t enough for me…

Does anyone have advice about dealing with a workplace bully? Someone's already left because of them, they're a member of upper management, and I'm not sure telling HR would be a good idea.

How do you handle people who deny climate change and global warming? It happens way more than I'd like it to when I tell people what I do for a living. I used to ignore it, but I want to start clapping back at them.

So what is this rumor about EY switching to biannual promotions and raises for assurance? Any validity to it?

My mom won't wear her Fitbit to bed. She has a pacemaker and has had a fib. We got it for Christmas so we could find out while she's in an episode and not a month later. She read or saw somewhere that it interferes with pacers. I looked it up and it's not a legit concern, but wanted more opinions before I advise.

I am an m&a junior at a firm that is generally considered a lifestyle firm (pay below market but target hours are lower unless pushing for partner). Over the pandemic period, we have had so many senior associates and paralegals leave that there is no one to ask questions to and I’m doing paralegal work (we are all in survival mode). I’m not convinced the partners in my team (who are aware of the problem but cannot convince management) can recruit people to replace given we pay below market.

Hi all,
Is lunch free in Societe Generale and should we pay for parking also??

What is the average bonus and hike rate?
Team: Model Validation (Credit Risk)

What’s an appropriate base salary for a pharma marketing DTC Director for a blockbuster biologic that’s on tv? What are typical bonuses and LTI? We only have 18% bonus and $37k LTI per year (approximately depending on stock price) for directors. Our base salaries are all over the place for directors.

The toxicity of Legato’s work culture is on the same rise 😒

How is life in FDD/ what are the most common exit opportunities?

HELP! Company wants me to move to the US for a Remote role - Is this reasonable? Hi, I'm moving through the stages for a Remote US role as a Canadian candidate. They mentioned if I were to be offered, expectation is I'd move to the US. I find this odd as the role is Remote but guess it's legal purposes. Good thing is, this comp also has a Canandian office BUT they said bringing me on through the Canadian office is not smth they do.

Is this reasonable?? How can i best negotiate? Thx!

Opening for Senior QA at Oracle.
Location: Bangalore, Trivandrum
Dm for referral

Partners: where do your clients come from? Do you spend more time acquiring new clients or using your network from past projects/peers?

Hi fishes, any openings for SAP consultant in American Express in India

How do the HC offerings at McKinsey and BCG compare to the depth/breadth found at Deloitte, PwC, Mercer, etc.? (Talent, HR Strategy, etc.)

Why does my left arm keep getting numb when I sleep on my back? Anyone experience this?

For those who are active and fit, do you eat out often (takeout, restaurants, etc) or do you usually cook your own meals?

Any tips for staying healthy while traveling for work regularly, esp to smaller cities/towns with limited healthy takeouts? When there are no healthy options available I usually just not eat or eat a super basic salad (eg lettuce + chicken), and I bring some protein bars and appetite suppressant fiber crackers with me. But my life has been super miserable and I find myself hangry all the time, bloated from eating too much raw veg, and waking up in the middle of the night starving 😭

How much sleep are you guys getting during the week and what are some morning / night routines that have helped you be more rested?

I’m thinking purchasing a standing desk. Anybody have recommendations on brand? Your experience?

Best time to consume protein powder/shake ?

What is your guys recommendation for dealing with a toxic coworker. They bring negative energy to work and personal issues everyday.

How do I pick a personal trainer?

Is a TRX sufficient for getting back into shape? I’ve definitely wasted these past two months but I probably won’t be going back to work until after July so I’ve got time to build a foundation once gyms open back up at a decent capacity

Just finished my workout and off to get some sushi. Happy Sunday everyone and hope you all have a good week!

At home workout recommendations for someone who gets bored at the drop of a hat?
Or any other interesting gyms?

Has anyone tried Isagenix? Thoughts? Did it work?

Hi! My peloton is arriving tomorrow and it’s motivated me to stick with a routine and eat healthier given how much that thing costs 😅. I’ve never done pre/post workout shakes before. Does anyone have any recommendations on which protein powders to look into and when to drink the shakes? And also like what to mix with it? Thanks in advance!

I used to have a fitbit. Really liked a lot of its features. Like the reminder to move and the competition within the app (games and competitionvs friends). However, whenever I was at work I'd find myself taking it off for more comfortable typing and then forgetting it during the day. Now that I'm back at work I'm sitting more and need to move. I was thinking of getting an oura ring. Does anyone have one? Any thoughts as to which is better?

Ate so poorly on vacation im scared to weigh myself 😣

How does a person change their mindset to be more positive? I feel like I’m meant for my job, but blame all my life problems on it….having no energy, being single at the age of 30, etc. and it seems like a never ending loop. I look for new jobs, realize I have a good job then am ok for a bit then start it all over again. When I’m off of work I’m fine and realize I have it pretty good. Only real negative is I can’t vacation with my family in March due to my busy time.

How do you start waking up early? Always been a night owl and sleep around 1. Wake up at 8/8:30 right before work starts.
I need to start waking up early to get into workout /yoga and meditation routine. I tried today and kept snoozing my alarm for 2 hours.
Weekend is way worse when I sleep around 3 wake up around 10/11

Does anyone have tips for ski slalom racing for my first season? I can’t carve completely, but shaving off a second of my time would have medaled me in all races I’ve been in.