Approaching 30 now and living with roommates in NYC, but considering moving to my own place. Has anyone found that living with roommates is better than living alone? Conventional wisdom says no.

I’m a pretty outgoing person and i like to have people around. I also like my roommates cause we chill. So I’m really scared of moving in alone and being lonely. Increase in rent will be marginal and totally affordable.

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I moved into my own place this past year and won’t go back. I can do whatever I want, never have to fight over tv, kitchen, bathroom. Can poo with the door wide open. That being said, it’s considerably more expensive.

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This, I’m about to move to a new city and thought about getting a roommate reading this thread. Your post reminded me of the time one of my roommates stole my money in the dumbest way possible.

there are pros and cons to both. you pointed them out in general, but to dig a bit deeper...

with roommates, you get more socialization, never feel lonely, have people to do things with, can share a larger space, have people to split the cost of things with, etc. but also, you have less freedom because you have an obligation to be a good roommate. you can’t walk around naked, leave your shit wherever you want, cook anything any time you want, watch or listen to anything any time, make noise at all hours, have as much stuff, have people over whenever you want, etc.

you might find that you don’t care about some of those things or that they don’t apply to your situation. that’s fine.

living alone does come with other benefits that aren’t easy to immediately value. when you’re alone, you’re bored more easily. and you learn about the type of person you are. what you spend time doing, how deliberate you are about keeping in touch with others and making plans, whether you have your own friends, whether they’re good friends, etc. it’s somewhat stressful, even though having your own place to come home to and nobody to please can be liberating.

girls will probably like it more, but on the other hand, you won’t have friends always at the ready to go out and meet any with you. the first time i ever went out by myself with no plans, looking to get laid or otherwise meet people, was when i lived alone. and when going out alone, you rarely want to travel far. so you go to the bar across the street, etc. if i had roommates who were staying in, i probably would have stayed in. but i didn’t want to be alone at the apartment on a particular night.

some of the experiences you have while living alone are disappointing, and may be improved if you had roommates with you. but it gives you a glimpse at what real life is like - often disappointing or mundane. to that extent, it can be motivational, or it can teach you to really appreciate the times when you are together with your friends, instead of taking it for granted. or it can be depressing. it’s all of those things. but if you’ve never lived alone before, you’ll definitely grow from the experience.

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i wouldn’t rock the boat if you’re in a situation you like. but if the band breaks up, maybe you should consider it. only reason i say that is because once you live alone, it’ll be hard to go back to having roommates.

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I had roommates until 32
Depends on individual’s personality
I had no problem staying alone and rent wasn’t a factor
But I found it was a good idea to be around people especially if they are good

Nothing, I got married at 32 ;)

The only reason to have roommates is to save money.

My friend got his house in philly and let his roommates move in with him. He enjoys their company and they cover his mortgage 😊

I'm 28 and I've been living alone for about 8 years now. I think the key is to get an apartment you enjoy/love living in. I live in the DC area and there are loads of luxury apt buildings, so finding a dope spot can be easier (assuming you can afford it)
I have learned a lot about myself, my likes and dislikes etc. It forced me to learn how to cook, clean, be a good/decent host etc. I love the fact that my friends feel comfortable when they come to my apt.
My space is my own and I always know what exactly I am coming back home too. After a long day at work, the thought of knowing I can go home, take a hot shower and air dry whilst watching TV, is simply priceless.
I would strongly recommend living by yourself. PS night caps with women are a lot more fun when you living alone 😉🙃

I think the main complaint ppl have with roommates is that they like the space, want privacy or had terrible roommates. If you like your situation, not sure there’s much point in changing it.

I hate living by myself and need that social part, but my roommates have all been really nice (would even make me soup when sick).

I loved living with roommates. Obviously there’s times when you are annoyed and frustrated with them but at the end they’re there for you and they were my real good friends.

I haven’t had roommates since I was 26. I wasn’t lonely, didn’t have any issues making friends or doing things. But I’ve always enjoyed my own company and never spent much time with my previous roommates who were not friends. It really depends on your own personality and independence.

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