I'm struggling with the impact of mental health on my marriage. We both have mental health issues, but his depression has been bad for a while now. con't

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I should add that he had physical limitations for the last few years with chronic pain that I'm sure had exacerbated this. I would also guess that those limitations have given him bad habits that he needs to work on breaking. Frankly, he's been useless for a few years because of the pain but that is 80% resolved at this point.

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He says that he's working with his therapist on it, but only sees her once a month. He refuses to see the doctor to have his meds adjusted. He says it is unrelated to meds. The problem is that he is always exhausted and is generally unhelpful. My family is taking care of our child after school, generally until I get home. When they aren't, he regularly forgets to feed her and often just checks out. He will barely leave the house other than for work, leaving me to handle all evening and weekend stuff unless I specifically ask. Even when I ask, he often won't. He'll spend all weekend at home then ask me to do stuff like empty the dishwasher and other chores, basically removing any possible downtime. I ask him to take her to something, so that I don't have to rearrange schedules and he agrees. I confirm today that he's going to be okay to do it. He says "I should be fine." I say " great! I don't want to put others in a bind if you can't go and I need to take her." He responded "I can't be sure how I'll be tomorrow, so it could change."

How is it that every time my mental health has worsened, I've had to take care of it quickly to keep us going, but he gets to make excuses for well over a year and not try everything possible to make it better. I'm just getting so frustrated and I'm worried about him, which I have told him.

Not medication, meditation

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