I’m working as a PM in a very dysfunctional start-up. We’ve had a revolving door on our team, but the one constant is a toxic director who throws people under the bus when things don’t go well. This boss comes across as very pleasant at first but quickly becomes manipulative and immature. They fixate on getting those fired who don’t meet their unrealistic, unclear, and often moving expectations- and will lie to make you look bad. I found myself as their next target and I’m not sure what to do.

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1. Document the expectations as you’ve been given them. Note who they came from with date.
2. Add this to documents of your work and progress. Send out regular updates by email.
3. Interview on the side.

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leave if you can afford it asap. Toxic manager get their tiny egos little hurt when you leave them

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