Knowing you’re in a toxic relationship and have to leave is hard to accept and even harder to actually leave. Knowing you need to go back to your moms to get back on your feet is also a hard pill to swallow. Really struggling at the moment.

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Been there except the decision was made for me. Happens to a lot of people, you’re not alone in this and not much anyone can say to make it suck less.

On the flip side, it’s a chance to re find yourself and become a brand new person. Go do something drastically out of your comfort zone while you don’t have to worry about paying rent (assuming moms letting you crash for free)

I went to the gym a lot and booked a trip out of the country. Got a dream job shortly after and have since moved across the country. Was a dark time for at least 6 months but it started to get brighter than I could have imagined after that :)

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