Can someone wake up after 5 years of telling you they love you and then say they don’t have romantic feelings for you anymore?

For anyone who’s been on either end of this kind of conversation, would find your thoughts illuminating.

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The feelings change over time but the “waking up” is just the moment you became aware of it. They may have been showing you some signs (however subtle) of disinterest for a longer time now and/or outright hiding their feelings because they didn’t want to disrupt the status quo… I’m sorry this is happening to you.

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I appreciate your candor, thank you

People change, sometimes they grow apart, sometimes it just wasn’t the right match from the beginning but took longer to realize. It’s not that they don’t love or care for you, it’s just that it isn’t the right fit. I’ve been on both sides of this. It’s hard for everyone. Hard to let go of someone you care about even if you know it isn’t right, and hard to hear from someone you care about and feel like it is a great relationship. I’m sorry this has happened to you, it’s devastating. But it will be better in the long run.

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Friend went through this. Impetus in her case was husband meeting someone else at work. 20 years later but remarried and very happy. But difficult time for sure.

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It is so crazy that people can just one day turn around and treat you like a stranger after many years together… I don’t understand how we humans can be so cold…

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So true! Thats why get a dog.. atleast one living being to call yours and yours truly forever😌 i wish human beings were more like them..

Yes, this can happen albeit not suddenly. Assess how your relationship has changed over time.

7 years in my case

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