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What’s that things they say about insanity? Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results? Pretty sure you answered your own question but you go and do some more research and come back when you’re ready.
If you’re not convinced you have, you need to find your bottom. Desperation is key to surrender and change.
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I’ve heard enough stories in AA that lead me to believe that for those of us who are alcoholics, complete sobriety is the only way. It’s not just one drink for people like us.
I have too, but it sort of sucks that there's no other way. I'm happy enough now, and I know what the other road leads to. Thanks for saying what you said.
I first tried to get sober 22 years ago. A lot of those 22 years I have been sober, but I also had some notable relapses. I thought I could practice moderation, so I had to keep trying. I thought I was smarter than my addiction. I thought I had power over alcohol.
I am really suprised I was able to get sober the last time. It was a very hard cycle of waking up swearing off booze; only to get blackout drunk again that night. Every day that cycle repeated for months and months even after my decision that I needed to get sober again.
My bottoms got lower and the insanity got stronger. I would tell you not to do what I did, but that isn’t my place. I wouldn’t have listened either.
Desperation leading to surrender and change?
I think you already know the answer to this based on your history. I've done the same thing and always found that moderation just isn't something I'm capable of. I'd love to be able to have that one drink with friends, but it's never just one.
Thanks for sharing!
I tried for over a year to moderate all kinds of ways. While it worked here & there, the majority of the time, it did not. Now I'm 7+ years sober and will never consider taking another drink again. Moderation doesn't work for me, and honestly, I'm so much happier without alcohol. So is everyone else around me.
From my experience listening to those who did that have either died, never got sober again and stayed miserable, or are in jail/prison. Take your pick. The people that did make it back said it was okay at first but it all went to shit pretty quickly.
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How are you currently maintaining your sobriety? Are you in AA or some other recovery program, or are you just using will power to abstain?
In AA we have a saying that goes, “play the tape out”; aka, imagine what will happen if you take that first drink. If I do, I probably won’t go off the deep end immediately, but I’ll need to find where the “line” is. As in, “I had two beers last night, no problem!”, but next time I go out I’ll think “two was fine, three will be fine too!”. And eventually I’ll use this false sense of security to have one too many, which pushes me into the full blown alcoholic craving which leads to a blackout. And in that blackout I can ruin my life in a single night. I know that’s my future if I pick up that first one, which is why I don’t.
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My fiance tried it twice and both times fell right back into his addiction. We have ongoing talks about how he wishes he could indulge moderately. I hope he gets to the point of other commenters—recognizing sobriety is the path. But it’s his journey to figure out.
Thank you for posing this question. I often get anxious whenever my fiance raises this. But based on the responses, it seems fairly common to hope/wish.
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Thank you! It’s a difficult journey but one that I’ve knowingly signed up for because I love and care for him. I’m on my own journey of understanding with the help of Al Anon and therapy. This bowl has been helpful, too. I actually shared this thread with him!
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Wow! Thanks for sharing. It just isn't easy is it?
I’m at a place where I only drink on Fridays and Saturdays and can limit myself to just a few glasses of wine each day and I measure a 5 ounce pour. I don’t keep it in the house and only buy enough to support that. So I’m now 6-8 glasses per week down from 20+. It helps that I’m no longer working full time and traveling, but it’s very rare I can stop at one so choose to have none during the week now. I have also adopted a no wine after dinner rule which helps me on days I do drink.
It's progressive. We'll see how long it lasts. I went a year with a similar recipe, only to slip on a weekday. Then went 3 more months before it happened again.
That's when I realized "Is it really worth the risk"? If my answer was yes, I definitely have a problem.
So now, although I believe I could control drinking "it's not worth the risk".
Totally agree with D1. There’s absolutely no benefit to drinking for me. Anything you would do with a drink in your hand, you can still do without.
Anyone advising a method for moderation is in denial in my opinion.