How do you deal, as an empathetic, emotionally needy but also giving person, that some people can just up and stop caring about you? Not hate, not fight, just indifference -- it's horrific

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This has been a puzzle to me since I was a teenager. I have decided that you can never really know another person and that if someone is signaling “goodbye”, it’s really best to let him/her go. That’s not to say that it’s easy, but I refuse to chase people after a certain point. So, I guess what I’m saying is to try not to dwell on it too much and let it go. Dwelling on it only causes you pain

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As someone who can easily become indifferent, i believe it has to do with both connection and outta sight outta mind. People who can become indifferent easily don’t always make as strong of a connection as you believe it might be. And if the indifferent person keeps their distance, they start just believing the person is just a memory. It’s strange, not sure of the total root cause :( wish I did. It also could just be upbringing and lack of emotions shown by parents. I’d rather be way more giving and empathetic, and I am trying to be, but it is definitely an effort..... sorry that someone is being this way toward you. Just make sure you can go to bed each night with a clean mind and you should be good. Do what you feel is necessary. If it isn’t reciprocated, it’s not really on you anymore at that point.

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I feel you. I’ve a really hard timing distancing myself from people even if it has only been a month. And when people distance themselves so easily, I wonder if our relationship meant anything to them. I wish I could be like that honestly, because it would mean so much less time spent wondering what you did wrong. I’ve terrible anxiety so when people are indifferent / distant, my anxiety goes through the roof

I’m the same way. I care too much to let people walk out of my life and I don’t understand how anyone could do that to someone.

Can you think of anything you did to make them that way towards you & they simply don’t want the conflict of addressing it?

Oh I’m sure. But I’m more of a, if we have a problem, let’s yell it out and deal with it. I can’t stand people who avoid confrontation and just want to walk away

I can see many sides to this situation. There are things you can't tell about a person, especially if it's not said aloud. For instance, one could say it's indifference but the other person could be dealing with some personal trauma. It's heartbreaking to feel like someone is distancing themselves from you but it has more to do with them than it does with you. Are they facing personal or family problems? Maybe they feel powerless and walking away is the easiest yet fearful way of handling relationships

Respectfully, don’t spend too much time trying to figure someone else out. Are you with someone who contributes to your happiness? The answer is simple, and it’s the only REAL answer you need.

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