Love is such a silly thing. and my nostalgia is going to kill me one day. no part of me wants my ex in the current version of my life and i’m much happier now

But i still mourn and am wistfully nostalgic for the version of my life that used to exist with them. i still grieve the ending of what i thought would be forever. even though it was never meant to be and im glad that it ended

my spotify DJ started playing “somewhere only we know” and the nostalgia hit so hard. how do i get past this?

Struggling with a friendship that has become toxic & fills me with anxiety. various factors have caused us to drift but it feels like nothing I say or do now is right. The issues seem to really come to a head for one when she is drunk, using it to air grievances with me. When sober she doesn’t feel like talking about it. It feels like we are pretending to be best friends because of history but the substance isn’t there and I just want out of it. Can anyone offer advice?

My bf has asked me to help him quit the ecigs and told me he’ll probably hide them from me but he wants me to take them. So I have for the past week. He really only keeps them in his pocket, 1 drawer

I dint feel happy when my bf proposed me for marriage.. i am not able to understand why..he is very nice guy, we have been dating for almost 4 years but honestly, in these 4 years, i never had that butterflies feelings with him never ever. Its just that we are comfortable with each other as a person thats it and we started dating.
Whats wrong with me..i am also not sure if i want marry him..

Ladies, did you change your last name after getting married? I’m worried about the impact it will have on my publications.

Any other only children out there having weird relationships with their parents? Feels like every time I call them I’m not doing enough with my life, yet neither of my parents worked in my industry. I dread communicating with them, my energy gets drained and I feel unsupported. Help!

Is it normal to feel depressed/lonely during wedding planning? I almost feel like I can’t talk about it since other people aren’t engaged and I feel like I’m rubbing it in their faces talking about it. So I have to keep everything to myself and it’s kind of stressful

What are personal goals I should set for myself as a fresh grad out of college? I live in an apartment, have healthy eating/exercise habits, and close family but not many close friends and often feel lonely

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

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still there’s not a single good word spoken for me from her side. we do not have any understanding between us, i come from a conservative middle class family, even though i earn well and life is not difficult for me, i live way below my belt.
She and her family has threatened me and my family, that if things don’t fix between us then i will have to bear the consequences, they are rich and wealthy, they will implicate fake legal case against me and my family.

GV70 vs GLC 300 please cast your vote!
My fiancée and I have been struggling for this way too long (disregard the price)

Partners, how have you managed to balance the work, obviously substantial, and your family? I see many with stay-home SO, but wondering if it is possible to prioritize family if your SO has a demanding career

This is our first holiday season in the Nashville area, any suggestions on family activities/light displays we should check out? Our kids our 8, 5, and 3.

Getting over heartbreak and having a full time job is torture lol. My boyfriend and I just broke up after almost a year of being together. It was such a beautiful relationship but ultimately he just didn’t love me. I love him so much. My mind knows that I deserve reciprocal love and I’m worthy, but I feel physically ill. My body hurts, my stomach is in knots, my head hurts. How is it that I have to mend a broken heart but also meet my billable hours lmao

SIL and BIL told us excitedly last weekend that she was pregnant (had literally just found out, so barely four weeks). This week she tells us she’s not pregnant anymore :(. They did not seem super torn up about it and were very practical about it. We said how sorry we were, etc etc. should I do anything else? Should I not mention it again unless they do?

So my brother doesn't talk to me for 6 months.   (I had offered my lake house guest space to my cousin who said yes instead of my brother who didn't know if he could come nor when he might know if he could come, how unfair of me).

On Thanksgiving day mom arrives and tells me that brother might come by in an hour.  He had ignored my invite weeks ago.  (Uh ok, sure).

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Men marry their second mom.

My other half (currently a Sr. Mgr in the data analytics consulting industry in UK) wants to work in Singapore - is there some sort of parents' visa so that his parents can tag along to stay in SG for the long term? Worried about them as he is the only child. His parents have the money to buy a condo if it helps with their long term stay situation.

Salaam. 26 M. Houston. My hobbies are traveling, watching sports, and hanging out with friends. Hope to get married this year, ان شاء الله.

What’s your *wish-fulfillment fantasy* life like? Hot model wife, kids, a house in the suburbs and success in your career?

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, good for nothing husband and they regret that this marriage happened and dragged every single discussion/scenario that we had in these many months in front of the family members.

i never abused my wife, never demanded anything materialistic from her and or her family, i have taken her to different places, bought everything that she demanded for

Any consultants from Deloitte who can help to staff in a healthcare project? I’ve worked with healthcare clients for 10 years and relatively new to the firm.

Hello, what is the maximum payout of the variable bonus? The offered package says it is 3 months of my salary but just wanted to know what is the usual hike and bonus?

What’s the salary band for a Director level for Big4 in New York? I am moving there and need to negotiate salaries

What would be the salary range for a demand planning specialist in Bay Area?
For someone with 3.5 years work experience and masters degree

Went to Hillsong NYC today. It was unbelievable. Feel renovated! God is good! Love that place!

Looking for roles in smaller firms 5-500M in revenues (not public but also not classic VC series a/b startups), any thoughts on how to generate leads for those type of companies ?

Democrat outrage baiting thing is getting really tired and old. I don’t think I will ever vote D again.

Hi Fishes,

Please share Barclays designation hierarchy with salary bracket.

Guys did you hear the big news???

What questions to expect in ubs UI dev interview for 4 years exp candidate. Can someone share their experience

Proof, in house for Beam Suntory (Jim Beam, Makers Mark, more) is hiring for an Account Director and an Account Supervisor.

DM me if you want the JD, and contact info.

Thoughts on Deloitte’s M&A Human Capital practice? Thought on Strategy& organization strategy? Should I expect case studies fir Strategy&? Any tips would be helpful.

Hi Fishes,
I have total 2 years of experience as a ServiceNow Developer. I am planning to switch from Accenture to other organization but I am not sure which offer should I take?

Infosys Or Wipro - having the same offer around 12 lpa

Which of the above organization will be a better for learning and growing opportunity as a ServiceNow Developer? Which one of the above is better?

Hey, how often do we get hikes in EXL? And average hike?

Is there any industry recognition for poc creatives the way adage and others recognize creatives?

Looking for Web Application Pentesting opportunities. Any advice to which companies to target or best industry for this type of work ?

I work at a medical device manufacturing plant as a training coordinator, I have a military background and a degree and am trying to advance but am feeling stuck. I am a literal jack of all trades, and am trying to get out of the hourly life, I’m working an average of 100 hour weeks and have been for at least the last 6 months.

It’s such an unsettling feeling to want to hear from someone and not want to at the same time. I’m shocked I haven’t thrown my phone against a wall. My mind wants a Rage Room but my body is exhausted and just wants sleep.

As much as I know I need to go through this. Today - I just felt so lonely. I was clingy and needy to strangers and just want to make some sort of physical connection with a human.

My partner of 5 years ended our relationship last night. I’m shattered and feel absolutely sick, and I know the healing isn’t going to be easy. We were on the verge of an engagement and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

I don’t know how to approach work during this time. I think I can get by, but I’m definitely not 100%. Should I talk to my boss about it? My team is close-knit and comfortable around each other, but I don’t know if it’s “appropriate.” What would you do?

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

He left 3 weeks ago. He’s still my first thought every morning, and I think about him for hours everyday. Normal? When does it go away?

TLDR: Getting over your ex of 2.5 years ghosting you after they said they wanted to reconnect.

I was dating someone for about 2.5 years and then we broke up because of COVID and the long distance was making it too difficult to continue. The break up must’ve been like a 4-5 minute FaceTime because I was very distraught. After we broke up, she started seeing someone else but I was heartbroken and it’s taken me over a year to really get over everything and process those feelings. (Cont.)

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

It’s been 5 weeks and I haven’t gone a day or night without crying and feeling haunted by them. I can’t eat, can’t sleep, can’t produce quality work, can’t find joy in anything I previously loved. This is the worst physical and psychological pain I’ve ever experienced.

Any suggestions for how to keep my mind and body busy? My job is painfully slow and not challenging and I’ve started to re read old texts and have OD’d on Matthew Hussey videos. What are practical things I can start to help turn this next chapter? Besides job hunting! I feel like I need to throw myself into something worthwhile that I feel good about! I just don’t have inspiration or motivation right now. I feel flat.

I ended my relationship of 6 years about 3 months ago bc he said he might regret not having kids later down the line. we were always on the fence but I’m leaning towards no. It hurts so much having to walk away from an otherwise perfect relationship. Wish this was easier…