I feel so much remorse for not putting enough effort into the relationship while we were still together. I took him completely for granted. How do I start to forgive myself? I had hurt him so much, and it took a breakup for me to see it.

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Who broke up with whom?
Also, if the effort didn’t come naturally to you then maybe he wasn’t your person.

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You’re not a bad person, you didn’t mean to hurt him. I’m sure you gave him many good memories and now you both be able to find your person. You can still love him. You can still wish him well.

The only way to forgive yourself is to learn from it. You may never repair something you shattered. You can do better next time there's something precious to you.

Don't take what you've been given by the universe for granted.

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