I want to share that in 1 month, I will have 5 years of sobriety.

I was attending AA regularly until Covid happened. I left my sober living house, moved back home, had a really difficult time going back to work after being on LOA. Did a couple AA zoom meetings and eventually just stopped.

I wanted to share because looking back, I had every reason to slip up and am considering going back to the rooms for a 5 year coin, but feel guilty because I stopped meetings. Should I go?

How is your firm dealing with COVID-19? (Lay-off, pat cuts, working from@home, etc)

What do you do for panic attacks/is there anything to do?

Exam tomorrow - super nauseous which makes me even more anxious 🥲 anyone get this and how do you cope?

Any recommendations to avoid feeling sleep towards the end of the work day? 3-5 PM I start doing the famous head bob if you know what I mean 🤣

I over functioned for too long (i.e., ran on pure adrenaline for a month) and am now in a perpetual state of crash. Any tips on bouncing back?

I got Botox (forehead) for the first time this weekend. It’s starting to kick in and I really don’t like how my forehead feels so tight when I try to use my brow muscles, it’s a weird sensation. Does this feeling go away? Or do you get used to it? It’s not painful just strange.

I am moving to Bangalore the next weekend, by 17th July. Seems there is a slight increase in covid cases, would it be better to come now or should I ask my manager to come to office after some weeks once everything seems fine?

Anyone have wrist guard recommendations for weightlifting? I have small wrists and they don’t love a lot of pressure.

What are your favorite online strength training program sites/apps?
For reference, I want to work out 3-4 times a week and want a program that balances all body parts. I'm tired of searching videos on youtube and apps.

I've struggled a lot with my ADHD in my new position. Lately I've had some really good days and done good work. I know I should be happy about it, but my thoughts keep getting negative, like I know it won't last. Do you guys ever get imposter syndrome like this? How do you deal with it?

Wondering if I should look into anxiety meds (or if I’m just a baby and need to get used to this life).

Have you tried any? Did it help? Affect your productivity? Which ones? tya!

Hey! I’m new here and would like some input. I’ve been working in a new position for almost 5 months. In that time I’ve witnessed some unethical and lots of unprofessional behavior. I’ve been yelled at and berated by my coworker 3 separate times because of minor errors. I’m ready to quit. There are so many major issues in this company that I don’t know if I want to subject my mental health to this degree of toxicity. I just don’t know how to move forward from here.

I’m scared COVID is just beginning and we’ll see climate change lockdowns and huge restrictions in the next years.

Like travel will probably be restricted for “essential reasons only”. We won’t be able to buy meat as often, etc.

I’m also scared that the QR vaccine passports for entertainment (like in Europe, Canada and NYC) will never disappear and that we’ll keep have to keep using them for our booster shots and maybe climate reasons.
(I’m fully vaxx-for now, untl they require more doses)

Anybody in Arlington (Ballston area). Where can I go running? Any nearby trails that allow to keep distance from others.

Anyone else find themselves getting extremely stressed at work during pregnancy? It’s like my emotions are just off and I get so stressed so easily. I want to be calm for baby but it’s hard to not get worked up!

I know that feedback culture is part and parcel of consulting, and I feel it is contributing to my anxiety and depression. At the same time, i enjoy the problem solving aspects and don’t want to do a career change.
Anyone having the same problem? What have you done to help yourself cope with the culture?

Almost 12 weeks. Still feeling sick in the evenings. Anyone? Please tell me this will end soon…

Looking for recommendations of at home workout videos for first trimester pregnancy. Please share any that work well for you.

Anyone else feeling particularly out of whack the pst week or2 ? I feel out of touch and out of control; inspired but unmotivated, drinking and smoking a lot of pot ; anxious but not worried, insomnia

London here. Although only a couple of days a week. Spend a lot of time in my hometown

Does nagarro deducted tax from first month's salary, as company is saying that we can only show our investment once first salary is credited.

Any job opportunity for a business analyst in bangalore? Having 8 YOE, data analytics space, power BI, qlik experience, serving notice period.

Pls ping me

Hello Fishes,
Looking for an entry level data analyst/ Business Analyst opportunity. I have 2 years of experience in recruiting. Would appreciate all the help tht can be offered.
Thank you!

Do you think it is easier to overcome cheating in a relationship that has or does not have children involved? Listening to an interesting podcast and would love to know peoples take on the topic

How do people make friends here? I have the ones i grew up with and a couple I made in the last couple of years (neighbors/through mutual friends) but I generally find that people here just stick with their social circles

Looking to move to San Antonio and we're looking at places in Alta Vista and El Dorado. Pros and cons? We have two kids under five, so looking for a nice family community with good schools.

Hi Fishes,

YOE 11+
Skills : Java, Spring boot, hibernate, rest api, micro services, docker, kubernetes
I can join in 25 days (Already in notice period)

Can someone refer me for a lead or senior role?

Thanks in advance.

Annual review approaching... $alary q’s: what’s an ~avg mid level salary (nyc)? What % do people typically get for raises? Are performance bonuses a thing for creatives?

Is exp hiring easier than through college/mba? I assume there might be less competition but more self selection and less spots

How many days does it take to receive the offer letter?
Last Thursday HR confirmed my selection.

Why didn’t 300k soldiers stand up and fight the Taliban at all? Like literally they almost all just surrendered immediately. I’m almost thinking that the Afghanistan army already cut a deal with Taliban since the States decided to pull out of Afghanistan

Sometimes I feel like I am a drone that just works all the time and I have no friends.

Best books you read this year that aren’t about sales, marketing or prospecting?

How do you deal with a team who only takes action when they have gotten the cosign from white counterpart? I.e. Maybe place a tag ...no action. White counterpart, I agree we should place a tag 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

I’m pretty torn on whether I want to take an offer for an internal role or not…
The job itself sounds pretty interesting. Lots of opportunity for growth (eventually will build out a team).

My only concern is the hiring manager. I talked to someone in my network who has worked with him in the past and she told me that she would 100% work with him again bc she learned a lot, but that he has a very dominant personality and that some ppl can butt heads with him.

I started working for a bank and am going through the background check. They found an arrest which was dismissed and the file was sealed a few days after the check. They’re requesting the police report on top of the court order to seal. The police report is BAD. During the arrest (DUI) they wrote the report to make me seem like a complete lunatic. Embellished on several elements of the case. I am worried that giving them this report will cause me to be let go.

I told myself I wasn’t going to do it. Re-assured myself I wasn’t going to do it. Told myself you’d know what would happen and still ended up gambling away a bunch of money I know I couldn’t blow. I don’t understand.

Any interest in doing a daily reflections thread? In the spirit of rotation one of us would be responsible for posting the link and kicking off the share for a month at a time??

I’m sober curious. I’m also about to help a new non-alcoholic spirit company with their launch.
I have a question for people in recovery. If a brand were to contend that sobriety is a spectrum, or allow for that to a least be part of the conversation, how does that make you feel? Are other brands doing a good job of being inclusive of people who are truly sober?
(I get that NA drinks / spirits can be triggering for people in recovery)
Thank you.

Just taking the opportunity to get current. Sober 3 years and 10 months. This past couple weeks have been stressful and my mind slipped into fantasizing about my drug of choice. Last week I flipped out at some of my wife's family. I did an amends and I think time will heal this one. It's all up to HP. Although I have neglected my morning practice this week, I'm practicing self compassion with positive self talk.

I messed ups no need help. Idk where to turn.

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

Anyone have a friend or family member suffer from liver damage / failure? Not sure how or what to do to help someone with the problem.

Some good advice from my sponsor as I go into this stressful week:

- Invite your Higher Power into the meetings with you
- Be your authentic self
- Be there to help others

Has anyone ever messed up at a company party because of alcohol?

Hello to all,
If you need someone to save from addiction we can try.
Just contact me

Downloaded the “Days” app. No frills, no extras. Just a number staring you in the face. I’ve made it almost habitual to open and check... even multiple times a day when I know the day counter hasn’t changed, but it’s helping and encouraging. Each day is a sense of accomplishment and a win over the pull of my own thoughts. Forcing my willpower into further restraint. 10 days strong so far.

How do you know when dependence turns into addiction? Where’s the line?

Have been sober for many years but currently relapsed and am in a downward spiral. I’m close to losing my family but I can’t seem to get my head together. Feel like I need a few months out, maybe take some time off work… has anyone done similar and did it help?

Curious to hear the story of anyone that has overcome or going through cocaine addiction. Given that people in this bowl make enough money to support such an expensive habit. Take me through your story - how bad did it get in terms of daily consumption and total money spent? Please share if comfortable.

I went to the lease this last weekend. Not one drop of alcohol was had. That was the closest I’ve come to caving. 4 wheelers, killing dinner with big guns, doing manly things in God’s country. Beer is an absolute necessity during these events. Anyhow, I didn’t drink. Proud of myself. Monumental moment for me.

I joined a new team and have noticed something off with my Director over the last months (slurring speech, no show to calls or even full days of work). I finally asked a colleague about it today because I’m concerned about my Director. She confirmed that she’s noticed the same over the last few years, but no one ever says anything. In confidence she told me she can often smell alcohol. How can I help? I feel helpless. I’ve already lost someone to addiction and I can’t ignore this. Any advice?

I buy things I don’t need and don’t know how to fix it. I always blamed it on “drunk buying” but I’ve been sober for 355 days and it persists. I know I buy things in an effort to fill a void and try to feel something so I buy “things” but it doesn’t help and I know it. Any thoughts or suggestions?