Sent a poll to our friends to get their availability for bachelorette festivities, and 2 of our closest friends said they’d be available on a certain weekend so we scheduled it. Then they text us and say they’re actually not available on that one day out of the weekend so we moved the activities to Sunday instead of Saturday so they could be there. Then they say they “forgot” they had a “thing” on Sunday and can’t come at all. Someone talk me down cause I’m heated 😤

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I mean it sounds like they don’t want to be there at all. Are they in the bridal party, because maybe they shouldn’t be.

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Yeah sadly that’s what it seems like. No bridal party, it’s just my sister as MOH. I wanted to keep things low maintenance

Have you discussed cost with them yet? It’s
My brother’s wedding and my husband and I are both in the bachelor and bachelorette parties, I wasn’t willing to commit to any dates until I understood price expectations. There could be underlying reasons why they aren’t comfortable committing yet.

We are staying local so there’s no travel or Airbnb involved, just around $100 for the activities and dinner

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. Is this a couple's celebration or have 2 separate people done this? Too late now, but before you moved the date to accommodate them, probably should have called to confirm they could make the new time.

I would be frustrated and miffed. It sounds like they didn't want to participate for whatever reason, but didn't want to say. Most likely, never dreamed you would change the date just for them. Although it is possible their excuses are real. I would still call and talk to them. Otherwise ( and still may happen) the resentment will compromise your friendship.

So sorry.

Thank you. To clarify, my fiancée and I are both women having a joint bachelorette and the couple I’m talking about are women as well. They just said they were free on that day “the 15th” and didn’t specify so we didn’t think we needed to question them further about timing. I do think we should talk to them a bit more. If the event that they have to go to instead was so important you would think that they wouldn’t have forgotten it initially when sharing their availability…

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