Feeling angry today at my ex for not being the person I wanted them to be. or the person that they made it seem like they could be. Now i have to start fresh and on a clean slate. Not super rational i know, but this anger does feel good for some odd reason

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Be thankful they showed you their true colors now before you got in too deep. Now you can find what you actually need.

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Totally normal. Feel this too from time to time

I would extend some compassion to your ex. Anger might feel good, but it doesn’t serve you well. If your ex expressed a goal/desire to grow into the “person they could be,” it’s very likely they’re still struggling with that gap. I doubt they were trying to deceive you - growth and change is lifelong

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