My gf emotionally cheated years ago and can’t get over it. She cut off all contact with him after I confronted her, but I still feel angry that it happened. My brain likes to remind me occasionally even though we have a great relationship. I feel like I’m sabotaging myself and I don’t know how to stop.

Been with my GF since college and we recently hit the 4 year mark. 1-2 years into our relationship I found out she had instances of micro-cheating (flirting with guys, talking to ex’s etc - but nothing physical) and we addressed it. To her credit and my knowledge, she’s been apologetic and great at respecting boundaries since, but I still feel the pain from her actions years ago (and have talked to her about it). Feeling lost about whether to just leave or to try and work things out

I’m having trouble transitioning from work to home. What do you guys do to get yourself in the “home” mind so you can be fully present for your kids? What are your transition routines?

I give massive kudos to all the parents out there juggling work and home life. But it’s starting to feel like I pulled the short stick by not having a kid. Really struggling to pick up all of the slack from all of the colleagues that do have kids and feel like the expectation is that parents should turn off while the rest are working from 7am - 2am everyday to make up for it.

Spending a weekend with my fiancé’s family out of town and quite literally my future FIL burps out loud 10x a day with no shame and his mom is a narcissistic monster in law just have no clue how these bizarre ppl created such a lovely person in my fiancé. Don’t need advice, just want to bitch. Can anyone relate??

Today is my first day back at work (and first full day back in my physical office) after a few weeks off for parental leave. Needless to say, I am struggling to stay focused on anything other than wanting to go back home to my spouse and child.

I know I shouldn't take an emotional temperature on day one, but it has been more difficult being back than I anticipated. Any tips for navigating the waters for the first day/week/month back?

Best self-care tips for dealing with loneliness/sadness this time of year? This is my first Christmas without my mom and it just feels like nothing will ever be the same again 😭. If you’ve lost a parent can you give me advice on getting through the holidays? Being a parentalish figure to my students is both healing and heartbreaking.

WFH parents - what’s your routine and how old are your kids? Struggling to find one for me.

Hey sweet ladies, C (26 male) this side. Hope you are keeping safe and healthy!

About me? People usually say I am their go to person for when they need emotional support, advise about relationships and when they feel low, maybe because I help them cheer up again and be the ear they need.

I am a great listener too. I can go on listening to you if you feel low, won't say a word until you are finished, will hold your hand when you are done and try to bring your sweet smile back!
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My bf has asked me to help him quit the ecigs and told me he’ll probably hide them from me but he wants me to take them. So I have for the past week. He really only keeps them in his pocket, 1 drawer

I’m hoping to steer clear of any scams by posting & I know it’s been posted before but, again, scams. Anyway, I am looking for something that can be done remotely on nights and weekends after I get home from my daily in-office job. My sister passed away & I’m now helping raise her kids. With Christmas coming, I’m nervous and dreading the season not only to not have her but will I make it a happy one for the kids. I need extra income but need to be home with them in the evenings.

Real talk ... if someone is over 35 and hasn’t been married before, do you automatically assume there is something wrong with them?

Man seeing all the divorcees at my firm... does anyone else feel like divorce laws should be revamped?

Has anyone quit their job because of a relationship? I started my job 3 months ago and now my employer wants me to move to NY. The thing is, I fell in love during the pandemic with a friend that I have known for 3 years. It's frustrating since I know I could continue my job from home. I would honestly quit my job and wouldn't mind the job search again.

my sister died this morning. I posted about her in a past post. Alcohol addiction, liver failure and then it taxed the kidneys too much, she went into cardiac arrest at 9 am and they could not save her. She was 51. Sad day for sure. Feels odd that she is no longer here. I just wish she could have had a better future.

My mother in law is dying of cancer but is also a toxic person. My husband has mixed feelings around letting her dump all of her emotions that should be handled with a therapist on him. Beyond this,

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

Have you walked away from somebody you loved? And why?

So I have been seeing a guy for 4 months. We have a pay disparity.. he earns less than I do (by quite a bit). He has mentioned a few times that he’s worried I’ll get bored of him when I know he can’t afford the same things I can. I think we are beginning to move past this, but now he’s starting to mention things like ‘I am really broke this month’, and last weekend he told me his mum has lost her job and he’ll have to probably pay her rent. I have a lot of sympathy for his situation … tbc

How to get over a girl who’s still always on your mind? Dated for 4 years, broke up beginning of July. One of those situations where you really think it’s “the one”. She has seemingly moved on pretty easily, which just hurts even more. I keep replaying scenarios in my head and wonder if there’s a chance at a future with us together again. 😔

Is anyone aware of a tax software (e.g., TurboTax) for preparing a form 706? For personal use, so cannot be a commercial license only product.

If there is a case that we have to quarantine again. Do you all think it is possible for store associates to work remotely? If so, what are some ways this could work? I fear another pandemic or outbreak and so many people being out of work again. I can't even fathom those that had jobs in retail that had little to no choice to not be remote.

Working in a start-up and love having an impact on the product. Things have been too chaotic tho. Thinking of recruiting for a big tech company but not sure if it's for me- anyone willing to chat?

Got a callback with a v50 after a screener last week. Extremely busy and everyone is always on my ass about what I'm doing when I'm not logged in. What are the best ways to take a half-day off after taking a half-day already last week?

Hi Fishes, its urgent

Anyone got onboarding email for joining on 10th Oct? The email stated that joining will be conducted from base location which is bangalore. Can anyone confirm if we can attend initial joining virtually as currently i am in Kolkata and also my recruiter is on Leave till Thursday.. Thanks

Just saw an awesome apartment on Houston and Avenue C. Thoughts on the area? Is it sketchy? 27 Year old man and woman looking

Anyone done the billing superbadge? Need some help with step 13

My wife got a job that requires us to relocate to San Diego. We have never lived there and know little about the city. We are planning to rent. We stayed in a hotel in little Italy and really loved the vibe there, but it’s too expensive for us. Are there other neighborhoods with similar vibes - restaurants, bars, lively, good for walking, clean, safe, young, diverse and accessible that are more affordable? Please share recommendations. How much should we reasonably budget to rent a 2bd/2bath?

Hi! I was contacted by a McKinsey recruiter for a BA position in the Risk Practice and I have a call lined up next week. What would this call entail and what’s the best way to go about preparing?

Can anyone suggest me Which one I should join DXC and BOSCH?
DXC joining is on 26 th July and Bosch I have given date of 27 th July.
Dxc is giving WFH and for Bosch I need to go office.

What are some of your favorite science podcasts to listen to?

Do you think getting SQL/Python experience is worth the extra time for financial analyst roles coming from Big 4 tax consulting? I would love to hear any advice for shifting towards the financial modeling path from accounting. Thanks!

Did anyone make the jump to financial due diligence? If so what do you love/hate about it and what skills were the most important when first starting?

Folks in NYC — recommendations for good primary care physicians for LGBT?

Putting aside wachtell, what do we think are the best M&A shops for high value deals?

Accepted an offer for 150k with another b4 (currently at D) with 4 YOE. I should be happy and jumping with this number but being an 1st gen immigrant, this number is too unreal/scary to me. Growing up I watched my parents struggle working multiple jobs from sunrise to midnight just to make minimum wage for us to have a good life but now it feels weird to be making this much? It feels like a party I shouldn’t be in, but here I am.

With Spotify Wraps everywhere, I have a question about music: What speed do you listen to music at? I generally do 3x, but will slow it down to 2x if I enjoy the artist.

I love iPhones but I hate just about every other Apple product. I hate Macs and the AirPods are terrible and can’t stay on. Im just bummed that I’m sucked into their ecosystem and can’t deal with no having things sync. Goddamn! The Macs are just such terrible machines. Regret buying one!

I’m 22 and make 76K/year. I feel like I’m falling behind the ball. All I do is work and go on walks and sleep and do it all over again. This isn’t the life I want but I know I’m very privileged. Is this it?

I want the quarantine dry spell to be over.. 🤨🧟‍♀️

It’s my birthday today. Took off from work. In a chatty mood. Anyone want to talk? Lol. M fish 🐠 here.

I really ruined things with the most beautiful girl that’s ever liked me before. I still very much like her but she doesn’t anymore. She said I was asking too much of her during the talking stage (after 1 month, I wanted to talk to her more besides only our weekends - she never texted/called).
Do I try again and give her more space or do I move on? I think she might open up more but just takes time which I didn’t give her

I dislike pickles and anything picked with ALL MY FREAKING HEART. 🥴

I’m the chief now 😤😤😤

Has anyone used/using La Mer? Thoughts?

Love to see Duke lose

Getting over heartbreak and having a full time job is torture lol. My boyfriend and I just broke up after almost a year of being together. It was such a beautiful relationship but ultimately he just didn’t love me. I love him so much. My mind knows that I deserve reciprocal love and I’m worthy, but I feel physically ill. My body hurts, my stomach is in knots, my head hurts. How is it that I have to mend a broken heart but also meet my billable hours lmao

My gf and I have been dating for almost a year and are thinking of moving in together. From your experience, would you consider that too soon? How long did you and your partner date before living together?

In an upward trajectory after getting over a bad breakup last year. I’m in an excellent place by all accounts, soaring professionally, and got an excellent job lined up as the next step. Even though I started dating again, I have zero motivation to commit. The mental peace that I’ve gained is so great, I’d rather be alone and just focus on me.

Is anyone concerned the push for sexual equality in pay without accordant leveling of parental leave is gonna backfire?

Here’s a hypothetical:

A company has 2 candidates, aged 25-30, equal in every respect save one’s a man the other’s a woman. Maybe the woman is a slightly better candidate overall. They’d have equal comp.

Company considers the woman a riskier bet due to possibility she’ll take maternity leave — and considers the man less risky for his ineligibility to take as much leave. 🤷

Chris Stapleton might be a cool guy. Maybe he has some good music. But every time I hear him sing “drive on” during a Ram commercial I want to punch him in the face. Ram has overplayed that one.

Anyone know how to deal with sleep problems? I find myself waking up in the middle of the night and staying up for a few hours because I can’t sleep. When I do eventually sleep I get like an hour or 2 before work which leaves me tired and grumpy.

Just found out that sperm banks pay $70 per donation. I just found my side hustle 😏

Need genuine advice
I’m 29 , Bisexual man more inclined towards men

Will it be okay if I marry a woman , asking in terms of my mental health ? I’m succumbing to the family and societal pressure .
I’ll always be loyal to my partner, but is there anyway I could curb my gay side completely? A conversion therapy or something?