So proud of who I’ve become and I wish I could share this moment with them. Or the version of them that I used to love. But the reason I’m at such a good place right now is because they’re no longer in my life holding me back.

Guess I’m just trying to understand why people have to change and grow, sometimes for the worse.

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I think we have to change. It’s inevitable. When you do the work and really focus on yourself it’s for the good, but it’s easy to lose yourself too. Proud of you for being in a good place!

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I'm proud of what I've accomplished, and I hope to share this moment with them. Or the version I used to like. But the reason I'm in such a good position now is because they no longer hold me back in my life.
I guess I just want to understand why people have to change and grow, and sometimes it gets worse.

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