2 questions:
1. Do you make more money than your significant other?
2. Do you do more housework than your significant other?

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1. Yes
2. No. The cooking and the dishes are my domain and my wife does the laundry. We have a maid service come in biweekly, but on balance she does more cleaning between those visits.

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Yes and yes.
My wife does what she loves and has a passion for but get paid peanuts. I work for the money. I get paid almost 3x what she does. I do more of the housework, because I work from home and she works a more labor intensive jobs outdoors. She’s happy, I’m happy. It’s all good.

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1. Yes
2. No (bit difficult to measure as we do different tasks. My partner does the cleaning etc. I do the cooking, organisation, bills, more of the mental load etc.)

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I make about 5 times more than my spouse. I run our farm too, so I am busy doing that every morning and an hour every evening. I’m also our IT person, tax person and handyman.

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https://www.cnbc.com/2023/04/13/more-women-out-earn-their-husbands-but-still-do-more-work-at-home.html

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1. No



2. Yes, but he does all the cooking and yard work.

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That is a relative question and might vary at different points in your life. How do you measure work load? Taking care of kids, cleaning, laundry within the house but what about outside chores like grass/leaves yard work, snow removal, gardening, working on the car, etc. I think everyone thinks they do the most work but then the "fruits" of your labor will be seen in all that you both do everyday, both in and outside the house..

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1. Yes
2. Yes

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1. Yes but that’s expected because we are at different stages at our lives. I don’t think this would be the case if we were the same age.
2. No because my partner has OCD and I’m a hot mess with clothes and shoes everywhere
For us there is no correlation, we compromise because we have different standards that are important to us. I’ll NEVER be as clean as my partner or be able to put my mind to do the things they feel are important to them due to their upbringing. Who the heck moves furniture and cleans the entire house before New Years, type of thing. No, thank you.
Our goal is to make enough to hire a cleaner and take the responsibility off of either of us. We recognize this can be a part of our lives that may cause issues long term and have a plan to address it.

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I'll say yes to both answers.
I read recently that women who make more money often also end up doing more of the housework and that's rings true in my house at least

Yes, I make more money. My wife is a homemaker. Together, as a team, we are raising a family.

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